I've been separated from the Ex for 10 years, 2 kids age 22 and 10. Back story was he had an affair whilst I was pregnant with my son, and I found out. I never fell out with him, I held my head up high and handled our separation well. He took all the money we invested and blew it, left me in £30g of debt. He couldn't care less, The debts were run up knowing the investments we were making would more than cover the debts and some, It wasn't going to be a problem for us. He didn't let these shares even mature, he cashed them out for less than we payed for them and blew the money on 6 months off work partying hard and sleeping around ( I had a lucky escape )
I have tried hard over the years to help the kids spend time with him against my better judgement. I feel that kids should see their father if at all possible unless it's not safe. I too them to his place, payed for his train fairs, lent him money. Then my daughter got to 15, and got Glandular fever. She told me her dad had bn taking drugs at a party he took her too. I was shocked, horrified. The hospital were told, rang social services who told me not to leave him with my Kids unsupervised, I'd be in trouble if I went against them. I stood by this, he carried on coming here to see them until last year when he kept letting them down, just not turning up or lying that he was stuck driving on motorway when he wasn't It got upsetting for my kids, So after several warning, My Ex still kept letting them down. Last time I totally cut contact, ( warned ex several times) as my son was really upset, He doesn't want to see his Dad now as he hates being let down and lying...Ex has a real problem with telling lies that can easily be proved wrong/right!
I got a letter asking me to go to mediation yesterday. This Chump also owes me more than £30 grand in child support too. Am I right to deny him access due to what the social worker and my instincts say?????