To think you aren't invisible once you're 40 and you can be incredibly beautiful/attractive

[Bedsidedrawer]

Just saying...

Who's saying you are? I'm nearly 48 and I'm far sexier and attractive than I've ever been.

Tell that to the wreck that is my forehead - I'm gonna need a shit ton of Botox to ever look sexy again.

I don’t care enough about it I have too many other things to achieve rather than what I am wearing or how I look

Ie raise 2 DC alone and get my career off the ground.

It’s ok to want to be invisible

In photos maybe...

Yanbu. I am surrounded by women in their mid-40s and above who look fantastic, have the most incredible hinterland and are self-assured and polished. I am early 30s and although I also feel confident and comfortable in my own skin, there's still some way for me to go - these women give me hope I might get there!

Try being 50

I'm actually very happy to be invisible.

I'm happy, confident and comfortable in my skin. Don't care if other people think I'm beautiful/attractive or whatever.

As long as my brain works my body works and I don't scare the horses with my face I'm just fine thanks.....I'm 50 and finally happy with who I am as a person. Looks fade no matter what personality? If your a freak show at 25 you're the same at 50 and it doesn't matter how "pretty" you are

Totally agree with you OP. I think other women see it, in each other more than men do though.

I didn't become invisible until much older. Prob about 50 ish.

Cuddly, faces that don't move aren't sexy.

I'm nearly 40 and think I'm still fairly young. I look forward to being invisible to creepy men but I'm nowhere near that yet.

I think women are very lovely around age 60.

I honestly think women of any age can be attractive. It’s all about how you carry yourself.

My mum is 72 and I think she’s incredibly attractive. No Botox etc. She has wrinkles and greying hair. But she exudes confidence, joy and curiosity and is fit and active and engaged with life. She is outward looking and a lot of fun. That’s what makes you attractive once the youthful hotness has faded (after about 35!).

Eg Fiona shaw from killing eve.

She's obviously spoken for, as am I, which is nice.
But I think she's very attractive.

I felt great in my early forties. At 49 i feel less attractive.

Jane Fonda, Angela Bassett & Jessica Lange, anyone? Seriously I'd consider leaving my husband for any of those women (and I'm straight).

Also, Gina Gershon is 56 and Marisa Tomei is 54. My 37 year old DH thinks they are incredibly sexy.

We also see older women IRL every day that we both look at with admiration.

I honestly think that as a woman ages she gains a sort of self possession, self awareness and confidence that is completely unmatched. Being so unapologetically yourself is damn irresistible.

I think if you are very averagely attractive you are made beautiful by youth. A lot of actresses are genuinely beautiful so it is kinda different! ?

Absolutely my sister recently turned 40 shes gone out today i saw her earlier and she looked absolutely stunning we don't really have that type of relationship but i couldn't help but tell her how beautiful she looked :-)
From the ladies i know in their 40s i cant wait! Kids nearly grown mortgage almost gone and time to look good!

When we talk about being invisible we are referring to men finding us invisible though aren't we?

I found I went very quickly from in my late 30s men being eager to please me, charming and helpful to in my early 40s not so much

It doesn't bother me in that I'm not upset by it but it's fascinating. In my late 30s men my own age considered me a potential sexual partner, now men even men several years older seem to think of me as their mother

Yeh i notice this too.

You need to read cecelia Ahern's new book called roar!

Wait until you're 60 - then you become invisible unless you make a special effort to look well put together with flattering clothes, hair, etc. Sometimes it's good to be invisible but not if you want the attention of a shop assistant.

I’ve got better looking as I’ve got older. Better hair, know what suits me, confidence and in better shape.

I’m more attractive at 49 than I was at 29 or 39.

Unfortunately time hasn’t been kind to my face, particularly the forehead area, but I’m too much of a cowardy custard to inject a neurotoxin into the area. Not everyone has this problem though and I do believe you can also be thin and have a nice face, but it’s rather the luck of the draw. I am no sun worshipper, but I’ve always had dry skin and I don’t think that helps.

I agree kayvade youth is beautiful in itself, I think only really attractive people, with great bone structure, lovely eyes etc continue to be beautiful as they age. 40 is still young looks wise, ime it's 50 when the decline really begins.

I look much better now that I am in my forties.
It just needs more work to look great