To think a 12 year old would spend time with their dad?

[ChoccieEClaire]

My DD is 12 and in year 7. She goes to her dad's every other weekend, Friday after school until Sunday lunchtime. This has happened since she was 1.
I keep getting comments from his family and friends that no doubt she will soon be too old to want to spend time with her dad as she will want to be out with her friends.
AIBU to think that although she may want to spend time with her friends that she should still go to her dads but he can then run around taking her places and funding them?! Just like I do the majority of the month?!
I do all of the parenting and it feels unfair that he can then suddenly not need to be involved as her social life progresses?!

Completely and utterly agree. Yes she won't want to spend the whole weekend with her dad but he has to adapt and support her as she changes.

Thanks Hatemadeupwords
That makes me feel a but better, people that I have spoken to have said that I'm being harsh and have implied that I'm being selfish not wanting to give up my time at the weekends!

Does her dad live in easy travel distance of her secondary school. In a year or two you'll barely see her because she will be out all the time with her mates, and that cant happen if Dad lives miles away from the secondary school she attends .

Not exactly the same but my 12 year old now doesnt want to go and stay over night at his grandparents house as it is too far away from his friends. If she can stay at Dads and still see her friends that would be fine but if he lives too far away I can see a time here she might start refusing to go.

Yes..I've always found that an odd comment. She has a home with her dad..surely she would still see her mates but go home to her dad's afterwards?! Why would it stop being her home just because she has a social life. I think contact times should adapt according to circumstances but her dad's house shouldnt stop being her base during those times. I find people that say such things don't view the two houses as homes for the child..they see the NRP's home as just visiting.

We live a 30 minute walk from her school, some of her friends live 30 mins in the other direction so she still needs to be driven some places, depending on where they are going. Her dad lives about 10 miles away so he would have to drive her but it's no different to me dropping her off places and taking her.
Whilst I get your point Bunnybigears the big difference is that GP don't have parental responsibility, I'm assuming they have him over because they like spending time with him.
Bluebell878275 that's a really interesting point, I hadn't thought of it like that before.

I went to my dads EOW from 2 until 16. Between around 11-16 most of the weekend was spent out with my friends but I still stayed with my dad, he would give me lifts if i needed etc and if i had plans for friends to stay on the weekend I was at his they'd still happen there. I stopped at 16 because it just became a faff having all of my clothes in separate places (teenage girls nightmare!) but I would still have lunch and dinner at my dads house on that Sunday. YANBU!