Or is DP regarding cleaning?

[Bobcat249]

So DP wakes up this morning and decides today will be productive. That’s great for him. I say I’m having a relaxing day off. (We don’t have kids) he did try call me lazy in a half joking way but I said I can spend my weekends how I want if I work all week.

He’s exercised and started cleaning and come and up to the bedroom to delegate jobs. I told him I’d do things I needed to do at some point today but will do them when I do them. The morning has gone on and I can hear him getting increasingly annoyed I I asked him if he was bothered I wasn’t up yet. He said no but I heard him say ‘you could help’ aa he walked away. So I’m annoyed at this point and said I will do my cleaning In my own time and not on his schedule and just because he’s cleaning I’m not going to jump out of bed and do the same.

AIBU or is he? I had two days off this week mind and spend 9 hours each day Scrubbing his house and doing jobs.

Auntie I think they'd be pretty much the same. What do you think would be different?

I would have got up to help

What on earth cleaning and jobs can possibly be left if you’ve spent 18 hours already this week?!

I would have gotten up to help too. That usually is our routine if I haven't gotten it all done during the week as well as when I was working. Wake up early and get it all done in two hours.

We’ve both cleaned the house this morning. A couple of rooms each. We do it together because it’s our house.

What on earth were you doing for the 9 hours a day?
I do 30 minutes a day if I can which is more than enough!

Well I've cleaned a 4-bed house today very thoroughly (and I mean very) and it's taken me c6 hours which has included several cups of tea and time wasted on Mumsnet. Unless you live in Buckingham Palace OP then you're either exaggerating in a very big way or you're doing it all wrong.

18 hours if it's pulling all the furniture out, washing walls/skirtings and scrubbing everything doesn't sound ridiculous to me. It sounds like spring cleaning.

Given that you've already done 18 hours, doesn't he see that?

We're currently doing a spring clean, DP is doing the garden and I'm doing the house. But it's what we both wanted to do.

you don't have kids and you waste your weeekend and days off dealing or thinking about chores and cleaning? Are you nuts?

You should be exercising together, then spending the day somewhere and have fun. One day is more than enough to clean a house!

I do have kids, and even I don't do any chores at the weekend!
Keep the house tidy and maintained, and you won't need to waste time getting back on top of everything. If you enjoy the feel of your newly cleaned and tidy house, why not keeping it that way at all time?

How did you spend two days cleaning? Do you live in a castle? Surely no one should have anything to clean at the weekend if you've already done that much cleaning? Next time e joy your days off and share the cleaning at the weekend or do it and spend the weekend doing something nice together.

Haha I did say jobs too. We just moved house so I had to clean everything and did some various painting jobs and diy jobs. Was a case of cleaning floors, skirting boards in every room etc. Last tenant was grotty to say the least

His cleaning was literally just putting the washing away and clearing some rubbish from last nights late unplanned takeaway and a few dishes

YANBU my dp does this too.

I work from home, so sometimes I'm busy in my office, HE decides to tidy the garage, and every 10 minutes I'm interrupted by questions about throwing something out, or a request to rationalise a pile of magazines as he's going to the recycling centre in 10 minutes.

I tell him that making something HIS priority doesn't make it my priority, and I will decide for myself how I spend my time (unless weve agreed beforehand).