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[Watermelon2019]

Long time user but name change due to this potentially being outing.

Really need some advice on how to handle current family situation. I have recently found out that my sister and her husband have started making porn videos and webcamming in order to make money. The content of their videos is EXPLICIT (as detailed by people who have watched). They have 3 children, 2 of which are approaching secondary school age.

I am absolutely horrified. I feel so bad for their children and am furious that they are putting them in a situation which could lead to bullying and ridicule.

As fair as I am aware they are not hard up for money, they would just like to live a more glamourous lifestyle and are using this to fund it.

I just don't know how to handle it, of course it's none of my business how they lead their life, however as a mother of daughters I feel as though I cannot condone this as I do not want to send the wrong message to my own children in the future.

Am I wrong to want to cut her off? I'm so conflicted about this and it's not a situation I ever thought I would find myself in. Any advice appreciated.

Cut them off, then.

But they are doing nothing illegal. So it's your moral problem, not theirs.

You can point out the possible issues, but after that you have to leave adults to it. I doubt a random old married couple earn much from homemade porn. Cutting people off who haven't harmed you seems overly judgemental, if you're concerned about moral development then you'd be better off showing your DDs how to dislike someone's actions while remaining kind and respectful to the person.

I don't think it's any of your business what they are doing.

I would be more worried about the people who are watching it, then reporting back to you.

Cutting them off is a bit much.
It's really not your problem.

You could tell them to be more discreet

Just wanted to add in here that I'm not saying I'm going to cut them off, it's all very new so I am aware my anger may die down once I have processed it, however I don't have anyone else to ask for advice which is why I want to put myself into check on my reaction.

I totally agree that they are adults and therefore it's their choice, I just struggle with inauthentic relatio ships so am going to have to air mu feelings to her at some point.

I don't think it's any of your business what they are doing.

I would be more worried about the people who are watching it, then reporting back to you.

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The only reason to interfere or say something is if you are concerned that one of them has coerced the other into doing this.

Not much you can do bar presenting masks/disguises as presents from now on, consenting adults and all that.

@carolsbiggestfan this is a concern of mine. Nothing up until this point has ever suggested that they have that type of relationship, however I do feel somewhat of a responsibility to check in with my sister and make sure that isn't the case, but of course accusing her husband of forcing her into it will no doubt lead time a fall out anyway