AIBU asking out is impossible

[Singletomingle]

Inspired by other recent posts its almost impossible to ask someone out these days. A work colleague is definitely out, a random person is creepy, dating apps for perverts. Seriously is there anyway to ask someone out without being weird or friendzoned?

It's been a few years since I was asked out but why aren't you allowed to ask coworkers or people you've met that evening? Surely you meet someone, have a chat, ask for their number (or add them to Facebook) and take it from there? You don't just walk up to random people on the street and say 'hey, want to go for a drink' but you can strike up conversation and see how it goes. Or that's how it went in my day

My company strictly forbids anything resembling so much as flirting between sexes. So without approaching a random person

Well, even that's been known to happen, in the olden days.

To approach someone randomly is seen as creepy. Yet spending time getting to know soneone means being friendzoned. What is the best way to ask someone out?

Friends of friends. Get chatting to someone on a night out. Less hook-up focussed dating sites e.g. Bumble. Hobby or interest groups.

Yet, oddly, people still manage to get together all the time.... 🤔

Spending time getting to know someone absolutely does not mean being friend zoned every time. If this is repeatedly happening to you, you are have either been unlucky so far or are chasing unobtainables while overlooking potentials.

I’ve been on a few random dates over the years, but every real relationship began as a friendship. I’ve never quite been able to understand how people embark on a romantic relationship without knowing the person first.