Aibu or is he selfish

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For background me and ex have split up living in separate rooms until the house is sold - not sure if relevant but don't want to drip feed.
I've come down with a stinking cold and a raging sore throat- a day after getting over with migraine so I'm exhausted!
Anyway here's my aibu or is he selfish? He went to the football last night after work and didn't get home till 1am I had sent a text to him to say please do not come in my room and wake me up- he thinks it's a given right he can come in my room because dd is in with me!! So this morning dd gets up early ex has day off work because he didn't see her yday, I decide to lay on the sofa whilst he played with her, I fell asleep but woke because she was crying fair enough but I quickly went back to sleep so I must have been knackered not long after ex wakes me up because he wants to go to the shop to get a cake to go with his breakfast!! Aibu to think he could have just taken my car with the car seat in and taken her to the shop or failing that got the pushchair out of his car and walked dd to the shop so I can have the sleep I needed instead of waking me up?

YANBU that's what I would have done in his situation. I guess it might make sense to agree in advance when each of you are responsible for DD (even if you're both in the house) so there are no disagreements. Obviously ideally you could just play it by ear and use common sense but that only works if both parents are going to be considerate.

If it’s texhnically his time to be with her then YANBU. Even though the relationship has broken down it would have been nice to acknowledge you were ill and take DD with him.
With the room thing, doesn’t matter if she is in there too... it’s your space. If he won’t listen I’d get a lock on the door or something? Would he think it’s ok to just waltz into your house when you’ve both moved out just because DD is there? (Slightly extreme example but you know what I mean)
But given you are ill it’s it’s supposed to be his time with DD then I don’t think you are being unreasonable. X

Thankyou for your reply, this is what type of man he is- he has a cold- expects me to pander to his needs, let him rest, do everything because he has man flu!! Yet 3 days after I had dd by c section he left me on my own because he wanted to play football!! Xx

That's exactly what others have said about him just waltzing in my home!! And exactly how he thinks it'll be I think- deluded xx

YANBU but it's got to get awkward and U having to live together until the house sells. I hope it's done soon and you two can both move on

Sorry should have also said not technically "his" time as we haven't sorted that out and the 2 times I've asked him to have dd he couldn't because he had football and other arrangements with his brother so I gave up trying to sort out "his" time with her xx