Relationship - what shall I do???

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I have been with dp 3 years, living together. My 3 dc are teenagers his two dc are 7 and 3.
Our weekends revolve around his dc7 he is allowed to do what he wants, eat what he wants and sleeps in our bed. I've tried to talk about his bad eating habits which he is improving slightly but the bed thing is really annoying. When I mentioned this recently we ended up having our first proper disagreement. I feel like I'm spending my weekends parenting and running round after his two children, mine don't need me as much apart from transport to hobbies. I wouldn't mind as much if we have a dc of our own but he doesn't want one. I really do love him but we don't really do anything anymore. I am also much worse off financially since living with him. I've decided to tell him that I'm not happy but how do I word it? I don't want to split up just make things better.
Just to add I love his kids and them coming they just need routine which he refuses

The financial situation needs to be sorted. You should not be worse off as a result of him being there. It doesn't mean having to pool finances but it does mean that perhaps bill shares need to be different, especially if he is earning more than you.

The situation with his son also needs to be sorted. He needs to stop coming into your bed, start putting boundaries in place for behaviour and consequences for rudeness etc., and take responsibility for his son's health and diet.

They are non-negotiable and if he's not prepared to sort them out and maintain it then he needs to move out.

this is SPOT ON