Husband

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Just joined after having a nosey.

My other half has anger problems. He has been violent in the past (3 times) and went for counselling. No physical violence since. Emotional crap is still there. I’m interested, is it an generation thing why I’m still with him (am 45).

Leave.

What is the point of staying with someone who does these things? Honestly, what od you get out of the relationship?

I’m 34 so not so much younger than you and I would struggle to stay with a man who raised a hand to me.

It is in no way a generational thing. Love yourself more than you are scared to leave him. Just get out.

Why would it be a generation thing?
Only you know why you haven’t left but emotional ‘crap’ can be a lot harder to get over than physical violence

It's not a generational thing - I don't think anyway. Although there is more awareness around it, people of all generations still stay in abusive relationships for a whole range of reasons. You just need to work out yours.

It’s not a generational thing. My friend’s mum got out in her mid-fifties for the same reason. She has BLOSSOMED since leaving him.

Met a new man a couple of years later who is really lovely and she is so much happier and more relaxed and confident now.

Why are you staying? Is it due to fear of the unknown if you leave? You can make your own bright future on your own. You know you are stuck with lifelong unhappiness if you stay. Your choice.

Sorry,I don't understand what your AIBU is op?

That's not "anger problems", that's him abusing you.

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I'm 64, I left an emotionally abusive relationship over 30 years ago. (AND I was called unreasonable as he was always lovely when there were others, especially family, around) No physical violence, although he did assault me after our split.

There are people in their teens putting up with physical and emotional violence even now.

You are worth more but you have to be proactive because there is no reason for him to be. It's not easy but it is worth it.

No it's not generational

Erm I’m only 4 years younger than you. Nothing about our generation that told us to stay with an abusive prick.

Quite the opposite in fact.

I’m 41. There is no way I’d countenance ANY abuse at all - physical or emotional.

Not generational. I don’t understand why people stay with abusive partners but I also understand it can’t be easy to leave or they would.

You should be asking yourself that question rather than mums net. Why exactly are you with him??

Dump him.

Why would it be a generational thing? I am 53, and wouldn't want to be with such a shit.

I think women of all ages can be too scared to leave an abusive relationship. If you're thinking that because you're not really young you have to settle for it, that is not the case. You could be only halfway through your life. And I have heard of ladies much senior to you who've left. It is definitely not too late

I grew up believing my mum stayed with my dad because that's what her generation were brought up to do. In reality, she's just a doormat and through my parents relationship dynamics, I learnt to be a doormat too.