Handovers

[spaceyface89]

Cross posting for traffic.

I posted recently about EA ex and his behaviour ramping things up before court.

I was really shaken up this evening. I came to pick DD up from tea with dad as in the court order. Since the order, I've beeped outside the house and he walks her out to the car. This has always been how we do things and makes me feel less vulnerable than going to his door.

This evening, I did this as normal. For 15 minutes he didn't come out. I phoned him and he said he won't return her unless I come to the door. I said this isn't how we do it.

Eventually his gf stormed out the house with DD shouting that id been making her distressed. She was absolutely fine. I told the GF it had nothing to do with her. I felt really intimidated with the two of them, against me, at their house. I know it sounds silly, but not having to come to their door is a big thing for me. I have panic attacks after his behaviour.

I feel that he's done it really deliberately and to make some kind of case before court about emotional harm which doesn't even exist. I don't know how to approach this now, I'm really worried. Should I write to his solicitor? Am I being hysterical?

Keep a note of it (email or text yourself) and mention it to your solicitor.

I hated handovers, but told my solicitor and she said that if they (kids) can walk, then just leave them out the door to walk to his car.

I dont know how old your dd is, but if he's being an ass, then just say that when you beep when youre there, she can just walk to your car. If he's only done this once, and he's demanding you go to his door (bloody ridiculous, theres no reason for it) he's probably doing it to make what he thinks will be a point.

If he is, then thats just pathetic, wont work (in fact it makes him look weird) and its honestly not worth two seconds of your time.

Been there and done it!

Thanks for your advice. It's nice to know people have experienced similar things and come through it. At the moment, I feel really frightened, like he's always got something malicious in the pipeline to distort the narrative for court.