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Wibu to go to family wedding?

14 replies

Chopbob · 09/05/2019 20:05

It's a close (immediate) family members wedding this weekend and dh and I would be attending without our dc due to the distance (7hrs travel). We have arranged all our travel, accommodation etc.

Except that 3 days ago our dd became seriously unwell due to complications a viral infection and was admitted to hospital for a few days.
Thankfully today she is completely back to her normal cheeky self and she has been discharged-thank goodness-but obviously it was a really scary time and I'm really loathed to leave her.

Should dh and I still attend the wedding? We would have to leave tomorrow at the latest and would be away 2 nights. My dm and df would be staying with the little ones at our house and I trust my mum implicitly....but I still feel like the world's worst mother if I leave them! So WIBU to go to the wedding or WIBU to let my family member down at such late notice?

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Chopbob · 09/05/2019 20:16

Bump

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almostsunny · 09/05/2019 20:25

It's up to you ? Children bounce back incredibly quickly so could be fine, but I personally would be so stressed away from them. I would send oh if he was happy to go or if it's my side of the family I'm sure oh would stay home as 7 hrs away is quite far

Antigon · 09/05/2019 20:29

Your parents have got this, unclench and go!

HolesinTheSoles · 09/05/2019 20:41

How old is she? If you trust your parents and DD herself isn't concerned about the recent hospital stay I'd probably still go. It's difficult and I can understand your feelings. I assume your parents won't mind you calling up for regular check ins if you're anxious?

twinsrunmylife · 09/05/2019 20:43

I think you should go. I know it'll be super hard to stay away from her but as a pp said children bounce back quickly and you could call up for regular check ins

TheTrollFairy · 09/05/2019 20:43

Go to the wedding!
Obviously you have all had a shock but your DD is fine now and your mum will tell you the first sign of an issue

LoopyLou1981 · 09/05/2019 20:45

How old is dd?
Not quite the same but my dd (now 2) has been hospitalised several times with respiratory infections. Once they’re got the right medication in her the recovery was incredible.
I’m sure your parents will be fine looking after her if she’s already making an improvement x

BeenThereDone · 09/05/2019 20:48

I had a similar issue a couple of years ago.... Go it will be fine. I just kept ringing and checking in and left super early the next morning to get home. In all fairness she's with your mother and will just be tired and probably asleep for most of the time you are away.

Langrish · 09/05/2019 20:49

What would you rather do? Do that.

Sparkles07 · 09/05/2019 20:49

I would go, if you trust you mother to look after her and take her hospital should she show any signs of a relapse etc.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 09/05/2019 20:51

Go.

specterlitt · 09/05/2019 21:25

You would not be the world's worst, honestly. Go, you both have had a terrible few days but fortunately your little one is better and can enjoy time with her grandparents. Have a wonderful time with one another and enjoy each other completely. You will be leaving them with people you trust, find some solace in that and as they say - let your hair down.

I wish the little one good health and hope it's all up from here.

Best wishes to you all!

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Chopbob · 10/05/2019 07:20

Thanks everyone! Pretty unanimous lol. I think we will hang around until lunch and see how she is and then we will probably go

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Sparkles07 · 13/05/2019 08:53

How did it go?

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