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AIBU to dislike feet on furniture?

15 replies

HyacynthBucket · 09/05/2019 17:41

I do have a 'thing' about shoes and feet on furniture, but would really like some points of view about last weekend. I was a at friend's house, at a discussion group, all the people known to her, though not necessarily very well. One woman arrived late, and when offered a seat immediately put one foot up on the chair as she sat. Then we moved into a room with sofas, and she took her shoes off, put one bare foot on the seat and sat down on her foot, pulled the other foot up and proceeded to feel about around her toes as we were talking. Afterwards we had food, and she handled the serving spoons etc. without washing her hands first, having handled her feet. To me, it was horribly rude to put her feet on someone else's furniture, uninvited, and unhygienic, though I do hate feet going anywhere but the floor. Was what she did really rude to the person whose house it was, or am I too bothered by it?

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MumUnderTheMoon · 09/05/2019 17:55

I think your too bothered about bare feet or socks on furniture but I would agree you should let put shoes on furniture. I don't think it's appropriate for you to take a view on how people are comfortable sitting.

TheGoogleMum · 09/05/2019 17:57

I like to sit with feet up because I am very short so often feel like I can't touch floor that well anyway. I would probably try not to do it at someone's house I didn't know well but there's a chance I'd do it automatically to be honest. Shoes on furniture isn't nice though

FriarTuck · 09/05/2019 17:57

Feet in clean socks - fine on furniture. Feet in shoes - never fine on furniture. My bare feet - fine on furniture. Other people's bare feet - put some friggin' socks on!
And as for handling feet then cutlery.... Shock

goodwinter · 09/05/2019 17:59

Agree with @FriarTuck. I'll put my own feet wherever I want to on my own furniture, but would never do it at someone else's house!

butteryellow · 09/05/2019 18:05

I wouldn't do it in on polite occasions, but if it was somewhere I was supposed to be comfortable, I would often sit with one foot under me, as like TheGoogleMum, I'm very short, so sitting on most sofas conventionally can be a problem (if I sit towards the back, then my feet poke straight forward like a toddler, if I scooch to the front then I'm basically sitting on a stool, and it's not relaxing at all.

I wouldn't do it in shoes - but again, that wouldn't be a problem, as generally, in more formal situations I would leave my shoes on, but among family and friends my shoes would come off at the door (we're a shoes off family - although not uptight about it)

Lllot5 · 09/05/2019 18:17

Well I think it depends whose house it is. If your friend doesn’t mind then not really up to you.
Picking her feet then handling serving spoons is awful though.

HomeMadeMadness · 09/05/2019 18:20

Shoes should never be on furniture, I don't think anyone would normally care about feet in socks on furniture. I would hope my friends would feel comfortable enough to snuggle on the sofa with their feet too if they wanted to (without shoes obviously!).

hazell42 · 09/05/2019 18:23

It does depend on how well you know people, but I hate wearing shoes and tend to kick them off immediately on going indoors. I also have a very bad back (partly the reason for the shoe thing) so try to sit with feet elevated where possible.
Wouldnt pick my feet and handle food though

rodentattack · 09/05/2019 18:23

Shoes on furniture is inappropriate.
Shoeless feet on furniture is fine, if they're clean and not taking up loads of room that might be needed by other people.
Fiddling with feet anywhere except one's own home is rude.
Handling communal food after fiddling with feet is disgusting.

goingonabearhunt1 · 09/05/2019 18:36

'Fiddling' with feet in public is a bit weird Grin

HyacynthBucket · 09/05/2019 18:57

Thanks f or your views. I hated it but was not sure if I was OTT. Glad to hear most agree with me about the feet then food.

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WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 09/05/2019 19:01

I saw the thread title and thought it was going to be about detesting the vulgar look of Queen Anne legs or bun feet on chaises longues and Chesterfields Grin

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 09/05/2019 19:04

Wait.... she was sitting there in front of you and nonchalantly picking out sock-jam and toe-bogies??? Boak!!

Binting · 09/05/2019 19:11

I also have a thing about outside shoes being worn indoors and feel queasy if I see shoes on furniture or carpet, even if it’s on tv (I know, I know 😏). I would never put my shoed feet on anyone else’s furniture but I will put my feet up if I’m in a close friend or family house. I wouldn’t pick my feet in front people though.

TinyGhostWriter · 09/05/2019 19:14

I saw the thread title and thought it was going to be about detesting the vulgar look of Queen Anne legs or bun feet on chaises longues and Chesterfields
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Me too Grin

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