To ask how best to deal with potentially another interview rejection

[AllesAusLiebe]

Hi everyone

DH works as an IT Project Manager, but since we had DS (7 months ago), he’s been on the search for another job to cut down his commuting time.

So far, he’s applied for 4 positions and had 4 interviews - a great ratio. However, he hasn’t been successful in any. He reached the second phase of an interview process last week and the chair of the panel said that they’d be in touch by the middle of this week.

He’s still yet to hear anything, so obviously he’s thinking the worst that this is another rejection.

I’ll be gutted for him if he hasn’t made it, but I’m starting to think that I need to be prepared for worst case scenario. Obviously I’ll tell him that I’m upset for him, but I wondered whether anyone else had been in a similar situation before? What did you say that didn’t come over as useless platitudes?

Also, anyone have any positive stories of multiple interview rejection that actually turned out for the best?

Thanks guys. It’s such a pain! He’s the only wage earner since I’m returning to full time study in October and he just wants to have more time to spend with DS and I.

To be honest, I think if he is getting that many interviews it is purely a matter of time before he gets another position

@springandsummertime

Oh thanks I really do hope so!

I know that loads of people have a lousy commute and wish they could spend more time at home, it’s just simply that I’m hopeless at finding the right words.

This comes across as a bit of a silly AIBU if I’m honest. He’s your husband, not an acquaintance. You know how to talk to him! There really doesn’t need to be this much drama about a job rejection.

A while ago I was told that six interviews for a job offer was average in a competitive field. So he wouldn't be off track. Is he asking for detailed feedback?

@ILoveMaxiBondi thanks for the valuable input. I’m not asking how to ‘talk to him’. After 8 years of marriage, I don’t struggle with this. If you read my posts you’ll see that I’m asking if anyone else had been in a similar position AND for positive stories following a few interviews that resulted in rejection.

@dreichuplands thanks, that’s interesting. I didn’t know that. I guess it’s reasonable given that so many people are chasing after the same jobs. I’m not from the uk and I must admit, fell into my work pretty easily, so it’s not something I have much experience with at all. Prior to moving here, I just did work here and there to get me through college.

Yeah he’s asked for feedback each time. A couple have been really helpful and I think gave him some really good advice regarding the sort of attributes that he should maybe be mentioning more of.

It’s also a professional thing, too. His company are moving lots of their operations abroad, so there’s a little worry surrounding it all.