To have been vocal on breastfeeding?

[QueenOfIce]

Sat with 3 male colleagues and one mentions his daughter is expecting again which is lovely news and another asks me how my friend is doing as she had her baby 7 weeks ago. No idea how the topic came up but 3rd colleague says how surprised he is that new mothers don't always breastfeed that for the first 6 months they should breastfeed exclusively. I asked 'what if a mother can't breastfeed' he replied then they should express.

I got a bit arsey and said that not all women are able to breastfeed, that it can be painful or the baby won't latch or many other reasons and it's judgemental opinions like his that contribute to some women feeling as though they are failing as a parent. It really pissed me off he then claimed to be offended.

He's also the colleague who said that women with cervical cancer should have another baby as that would cure them. I can't deal with stupid and I'm sick of his ridiculous opinions. So WIBU?

He's a dickhead. Good for telling him. He's offended....LMFAO.

No norks no opinion

Well said.

Surely the MN collective can come up with a suitably asinine "cure"/prevention for prostate cancer as idiotic as "women with cervical cancer should have another baby as that would cure them."

Maybe "men who want to avoid prostate cancer should do all the cooking and cleaning at home as that prevents it"

I can't breastfeed this time as I had an elective bilateral mastectomy last year for BRCA gene. I've had endless comments about not breastfeeding! Now I just say "you need boobs to breastfeed, I don't have any of them". Usually shuts them up!

He sounds like a total moron I'm sure you won't change his opinion but I still think it's right to stand up for reason and good sense as other people are listening too.

Good for you standing up to him, you should turn around and use the offended card too OP. I also would have asked him if he can produce milk in his breasts, when he said no, I would have told him not to have an opinion on breastfeeding until he did. Dickhead.

Dicks like that never change and never accept that they're wrong. It's tricky but ignore and don't engage with anything but work from this point on - if he joins a conversation, leave. If he chimes in, ignore.

I stand by the whole No norks no opinion line, too. If he's never breastfed his own child his opinion means less than shit to everyone but him.

Oh how I love to hear men's opinions on breastfeeding.

Jamie Oliver said bf is easy did he? I read his wife's book way back when I was expecting my first. The standout chapters for me were the breastfeeding ones. She had such a hard time of it!

I produced barely any milk with both my boys and I felt so guilty that I couldn’t do the most natural thing in the world, add that to the fact that I had a c-section for both of them. If I had heard someone say what your colleague said I would’ve came down like a ton of bricks on them.

I really don't care that he's offended, he's only offended because I, a woman challenged him.

For someone who professes to be so very religious and morally correct he is the most judgemental and misogynistic of people I have ever met.

We are a small team of 9 - 2 of us female and we spend a lot of time together over a certain period of time. An email will go out to all of us from 1 colleague and instead of just replying to that person he always always replies all. Doesn't matter who has asked him to please stop he keeps doing it.

For instance

Hi All,

I'm meeting X for dinner at 6.30 if anyone wants to join.

Dickhead replies

Thank you so much for the invitation, I'd love to join however I have hours of work to catch up on and will eat later if I get the chance.

Very best Regards

Dick

I can't not challenge his stupidity I'm not wired to keep my mouth closed!

From everything you've said here he sounds very stupid. Not much point in arguing with stupid people. It can be amusing for you though, so if you want to continue then go right ahead and please keep posting here with all the stupid stuff he says so we can share in the laughs

Good for you for challenging him.

I did similar when a Male colleague told me I 'shouldn't have an epidural' yeah, cheers for that mate

Op you were far too gentle in your response.

I felt like a fucking dairy cow with my first. He needed life saving surgery and I had to pump every 2 hours whilst he couldn't feed before and after the operation. Whilst getting no sleep for days on a shitty hospital chair, with a 3rd degree internal tear that resulted in a major haemorrhage so I felt like death.

But yeh, I definitely should have been keen to pump.

The ignorant little penis has the audacity to be offended? Christ!

He’s a fuckwit and sadly there’s still no cure for that.

Thou shall not pass opinion unless thy has the boobs . .

End of.

Mansplanner

I honestly can’t believe he feels like he even should have an opinion at all, and yet I have met men like this over and over again!!!

Don’t worry about him being offended. What you did by calling him out was correct. How dare he assume he knows best. I would now npbe ignoring him