Can't make up my mind about the boyyyy

[hubbabubbaa]

So there's a guy that works at my gym (cliche I know🤣) but he's really hot. like REALLY fucking hot!!
I go to the gym with three of my other friends, he always smiles and waves at me (not my friends) whenever I see him!
I keep finding my self having really inappropriate dreams about this guy to the point that I can't even look him in the eye anymore.
I've done my Facebook stalking 🤣 we have no mutual friend. Would I be unreasonable to add him and make conversation??? Or would that be weird? HELP ME!!

Talk to him first and make conversation whenever you see he then casually ask to add him to Facebook and go from there! Good luck! 🤞

I did something similarish recently, found him on insta/Th and he's gay!
Pretty as anything though, stunning to look at and lovely, I actually spoke to him on Insta about something relevant yo do with his work, and now I just like to drool slightly!
Totally innocent, no embarrassment and puts a smile on my face

Wow. I didn't think what I'd put was such a big problem to everyone.
The "boyyyy" was from a song Mad about the boy.
Tried to keep it as lighthearted as possible, it may sound stupid to most of you but with crippling anxiety just asking people out doesn't come easily to me at all.
Yes I know he's waving and saying hello to me because my friend walked out first and I was behind he didn't say anything to them at all.
The reason I posted this was because I'd woken up at 4am from a rather inappropriate dream about said man, boy, male, whatever.
I was just looking for advice since I've never EVER felt this strongly.

@hubbabubbaa honestly don’t worry about it. Mumsnet is like this now, god forbid you try and have a laugh or post something that isn’t major debate material.

I’m exactly like you, crippling anxiety and these situations tear me up because I don’t know how to deal with them! A few years ago I would have posted something similar but not now, mumsnet isn’t what it used to be.

@hubbabubbaa honestly don’t worry about it, Mumsnet is a bizarre place where you are simultaneously expected not to take yourself too seriously, but also to be VERY VERY SERIOUS ALL THE TIME BECAUSE THIS IS NO PLACE FOR LEVITY.

Re Mr Gym, you don’t have to ask him out right away, but if he’s waving you definitely have a reason to say hi and have a bit of a chat. Doesn’t need to be anything serious at first, just a ‘hi, how are you?’ in the first instance. See where it goes from there

I’m beginning to wonder how the human race had survived so far.

Just talk to him, OP. In person, like in the olden day. Why do you need to add him on FB to do that?

Thank you @geekone

@hubbabubbaa I actually sang your thread title when I read it.

Good luck, I love a romance.

Try having a bit more of a chat in the gym rhen ask him for coffee/if he is interested in a class with you or whatever. Good luck!

Just make sure he's not on a personal trainers commission then GO FOR IT. Xx