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AIBU?

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False report NSPCC

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Justwantajob · 08/05/2019 03:58

Police at the door apparently we starve and beat our children. We don't..... So police speak to oh I was at work, kids at my parents. Police find nothing wrong at our house, kids in perfect health at parents abuse bruises = kids playing outside bruises. Oh is a nervous wreck terrefied that they will take our kids even though we've done nothing upset about even being accused (fearing the stories of this happening) police did ask parents if anyone has a grudge against us so I really believe this is malicious. Aibu to hate the fact that this person probably didn't even give their name on the site and if we do report to the police chances are nothing can be done and this person can keep doing this? Surely the don't pass info to police is enough to protect from a real case and reports should require a name

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BetsyBigNose · 08/05/2019 04:53

Of course YANBU, how horribly distressing this must have been for all of you.

I understand your frustration about the anonymous reporting, but worry that some may be put off reporting real cases of abuse for fear of being identified as the person making the disclosure, so unfortunately it's probably necessary.

I hope you all manage to recover from this scary situation quickly and get back to being the loving, happy, caring family that you have now proven you are - even though you shouldn't have had to.

blackcat86 · 08/05/2019 05:49

Unfortunately you're unlikely to get to the bottom of it but speak to nspcc and see if there any details they can give you. This actually happened to my parents when I was a baby and they ended up with an unplanned SS visit. This was about 30 years ago. DM called nspcc who were able to tell her an area of London where the call was made. We lived a couple of hours from London so this was enough to identify the family member who had done it. She wanted to play mummy with me but apparently I wasnt a very accommodating baby and hated her!

Fedupwithchemist · 08/05/2019 06:51

This happened to me years ago. Police turned up at the door. Said they could see it was a malicious call as soon as they arrived. I spoke to NSPCC but as I couldn’t prove who made the call it could be taken no further. NSPCC were just as annoyed as obviously it’s wasting their resources.

Captaindaddydog · 08/05/2019 07:08

What did the social worker say?

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Justwantajob · 08/05/2019 11:51

Not had social work yet but they might still visit. Seems what ever was reported was bad enough to have the police visit first. Messaged nspcc asking for any info on us but yea not holding my breath on being able to prove who it was. Sad to see how many others have had this done to them. Oh is still a wreck was sick last night and ended up being sent home from work early today. Though it's hitting them hard as they were taken off there parents as a kid and they've worked so hard to make sure nothing like that happened to our kids yet here we are

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BasilFaulty · 08/05/2019 12:39

Unfortunately they have to investigate all allegations, just as the police do. If the police could see no evidence of neglect etc the incident will be closed their end (I'm a police officer). I doubt you'll find out who it ever was.

OutInTheCountry · 08/05/2019 12:42

That's really horrible. Do you have any idea who might have done it?

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Justwantajob · 08/05/2019 13:17

Pretty sure it's someone across the back. As you say we'll prob never know. We've decided not to let the kids out the back anymore they can play out the front. Concerned as to why someone would do this and if they are being malicious best keep the kids away

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Zakana · 08/05/2019 14:19

Evil, cowardly bastards and I feel for you OP. They have to investigate all allegations, even the anonymous ones, just in case something like the Rochdale scandal happens again. It’s one of the most nasty things someone can do, and you can bet your bottom dollar that it was anonymous and from behind a computer screen. It’ll be someone you’ve either fallen out with or inadvertently upset. Good luck and sending you hugs during this horrible time.

PinkHeartLovesCake · 08/05/2019 14:24

It’s a very spiteful thing for someone to have done.

It’s great the police followed it up. Thing time it turned out to be a fake report, so you have nothing to worry about but unfortunately some children are suffering so they have to follow it up.

CuriousaboutSamphire · 08/05/2019 14:24

A colleague had simialr happen a few years ago. Someone rported her husband for punching their eldest.

She left distressed wanting to speak to her son to see if it were true!

I always wondered 2 things:

Who would make such a nasy report? - he hadn't, they were in the school playground, he ruffled his son's hair in congratulations fo a spelling test

Who would take it at face value and still be able to live with the man they thought could be capable of that action?

They never found out who it was, and put it down to her husband being Serbian, forrin doncha know

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Justwantajob · 09/05/2019 01:49

It's awful being accused and yea discrimination probably played a part in it. It leaves you so suspicious of everyone around you. Will be sending what we need to the nspcc to get any data they hold, if it looks like we could show it was malicious even if we don't have a name at least we'll have police evidence of harassment

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Bellasorellaa · 09/05/2019 03:12

I had a neighbor I had issues with accuse me of reporting her to the nspcc and the police wanted to interview me over it.

it’s still used against me till this day I actually found out it was a previous neighbour who also had issues with her but blaming me was the obvious option

You could get whoever you think it is on harassment charges but likely it is someone close to home and not the obvious option

fanniboz · 09/05/2019 03:37

Something similar happened to my next door neighbours 18 months ago. We found out when the dad came round to ask if the call had come from us and they were very upset and scared, it was horrible. I don't know the end result with them (all seems well thankfully) but I did look online at the time and I'm sure I read that if there are repeated malicious reports then it can be taken further. You don't usually get police involvement with one report as unfortunately people can be wrong and they can't really punish people for being concerned about a child's safety. So unfortunately you may never know, I'm sorry it's a shit thing to go through

ChancePeace · 09/05/2019 07:06

So sorry for you OP, it’s an awful thing to go through My old (and first ever) NDNs reported me to SS and the council for overflowing bins, ordering takeaways every day (their words), and newborn baby crying in the night. That’s what newborns do The poor social worker was laughing along with me and didn’t even get past the front door she was that happy my DD was safe. They really didn’t like me there (childless young couple), didn’t like their lives being disturbed by innocent babies! They were really grasping at straws to try and get me evicted. Luckily it was only temporary and I moved soon after. Could it be a neighbour? It’s usually the likely case as they are always close by and know a lot about you if they’re nosey like mine

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