37 and longing for a child..not sure I'm with Mr Right though

[Shouldistayorshouldigonow999]

Would you go it alone with a sperm donor?

No. You have plenty of time.

Yes if having a child is all consuming and you are in a position to go it alone.

At 37 I'd get some fertility tests done, look at if you ovulate, egg reserve etc.
It's easy to say 37 gives you years but that's assuming when you finally try it goes smoothly. If you meet someone at 40, few years to get to kids, suddenly you're 45, been trying for a few years and noticing happening.

If you want a baby, and can financially and practically do it alone, go for it

Yes grimdamn thanks for your response. its all consuming!! I do have a 6 yr old and feel so blessed but time flies and hes getting older so fast. I desperately want another but no man in sight...

Yes I would.

Yes, and I wouldn't wait. You may not have 'plenty of time' and why wait for a man anyhow when he might turn out to be a twat and then you're stuck having to co-parent with him?

Good point bamboo fire!

No. You have plenty of time.

No, she doesn’t. A year can pass incredibly quickly when you are trying, unsuccessfully, to conceive (though the months pass excruciatingly slowly).

The truth is, it is generally harder to conceive past 35. I struggled at 33 and had to have IVF.

If you really want a baby, and don’t have the right partner, I wouldn’t hesitate to try a sperm donor. Being a parent is just beyond description, it’s just the most wonderful thing. If you want it, you should do what you can to get it and don’t waste time, especially as you are heading into your late 30s.

Good luck.

Thanks osirus

No. You have plenty of time.

Is this sarcasm or delusion?

I would have said go for it before I saw you have a 6 year old already. So this isn't your only chance at being a mother. Is your older child's father in his/her life? Because if so I can imagine a new baby with no known father feeling a bit "less than" in some ways.

I would have said possibly yes but when I see you have 6 year old definitely no.

From what I remember from your previous threads, you don't live with your partner and he is not that keen on having a child right now anyway, so the choice may be out if your hands. If I was you and I really wanted a second child, I'd break up with him and use a sperm donor (provided you have the means to raise the child). Using your partner as a sperm donor is not fair on him either.

If you have enough to financially support another child, plus support from family and friends especially when they're small, then I would go for it. It seems like something you would regret not doing