Are you approachable or not?

[Agednotwine]

I appear to be one that people (random) seem to approach and/or confide in.
Typical things would be the band at a work do when everyone else had gone in for food and I was having a cigarette, totally relaxed and said 'well great, we can have a break so! They seemed to think I was 'one of their own'. Clearly didn't think I was the big boss or they'd probably have kept playing!
Other things would be the likes of cleaners having a little moan to me in public toilets.
Waiting staff giving me knowing lucks and winks.
People always asking me for directions.

That sort of thing?

I don't have a nice smile (bad teeth), but I suppose I do smile easily and probably don't have a resting bitch face.

At work events I'd be suited and booted, but people seem to sense I'm not the big boss and that I'm going to be easy to talk to.

I am easy to talk to and am very friendly, I'm just amused that they can tell before I even open my mouth!

It's possible that I maybe wave or something at people - something I'm not aware of doing - that gives away the fact that I'm friendly, but sometimes, people just confide in me!

E.g.s from my youth would be that I'll be the one stuck for a half hour in the pub toilets consoling a girl whose boyfriend has dumped her.

That sort of thing.

I try to be less approachable, headphones in, head down, yet still I'm the one someone will randomly stop on the street to see if I'll help them read their google map (can't read maps).

Is it something particular about the head of me?

I should add, that I don't mind at all - love helping people - just more curious I suppose as to why it's always me?

I too think that perhaps I have a comedic face!

I know lots about people too, maybe because my instinct is to ask questions and be interested in other's lives/work. Actually recently I've noticed that no-one knows much about me, so I probably stand back a little too much. When I DID need people to lean on and support me, they didn't realise!

I'm approachable when in a good mood, I suppose we must radiate that through body language/facial expression/relaxed pace etc.

When I'm in a rush or stressed/annoyed people step out of my way in the street and avoid me at events. Especially if I'm smartly dressed and wearing make up, perhaps it signals an authority position? Power stances like hands on hips are supposed to convey authority.

I've got bad resting bitch face but tbh it suits me being unapproachable as I don't like making small talk and chatting to people. I'm a very private person and hate the idea of lots of people thinking they "know me". My mum will say something like "you know Miss A? You went to school with her, you know her?" And I'll reply "I know who she is but I don't know her, school was 10yrs ago I've got no idea who she is as a person" and personally I like to think people will think like that about me apart from my family and close knit group of friends. Obviously I've got friends and acquaintances I'm friendly with and who'd say I'm lovely but I keep people at arms length

I digress haha, My mum is the opposite, someone will ask her for directions and she'll get their life story and then they'll ask for her number to meet for coffee sometime 😂 it's weird. She's very approachable and often end up counselling people she barely knows

Me too OP. And I like it because in my teens I was so uptight and anxious, nobody approached me.

I was quite rude seeming aswell.

Now I'm in my late 40s everyone and his dog talks to me! It's great. I went home to England recently after 4 years in Oz and it was even more evident there....especially in Manchester.

Every single person I met was friendly and spoke!

I'm approachable I apparently smile a lot. I like talking to people aswell but I also do this thing when I'm feeling uncomftable when I smile a lot do a odd laugh I didn't realise I did it but a few people have pointed it out to me. I also think I automatically smile if I catch someone's eye which might be why people would approach me