Friends hijacking our holiday that we haven't even agreed yet. AIBU?

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So we met friends on Saturday and were talking about our upcoming holiday in October. They have now invited themselves to come along next year at the same time, despite me saying that we may not be able to as it will mean taking kids out of school for a few days during an important year and that we need to know school holidays etc so won't consider it until school release their Calender.
They have in the last been very disparaging about the location that we go to. They are notoriously late for everything and argue all the time. They also don't like to spend money where as we like to go out and about.
They decided that they would like to go next year with us with no encouragement or checking if it was ok. DH and I both felt that we couldn't really say no but weren't enthusiastic either.
Have just had a message from my husband to say that the husband has booked off the dates that they want to go. Looks like it's happening now then. AIBU to think that they are a bit pushy!!

Thank you fellow mumsnetters. Rest assured I am not planning on going on the holiday - my attempt at sarcastic humour obviously got lost in translation. We will book our holiday if we can afford it and when it suits us and I think a frank conversation to that elk is imminently in our future. Was more taken back by how quickly the time was booked off then anything. The conversation we had hadn't actually agreed that we would be going, just a wouldn't it be nice type of thing. Although reading back on my initial post perhaps I need to work on my communication skills to make sure what I mean gets across

They are pushy CFs with zero social skills. Change your plans.

Oh, just tell them that at the moment you can't book the holidays until you know the school calendar.

Just don't tell them in future

Spill the beans then OP and we'll all come along.

It'll be fabulous

You need to stop this now. Send a polite message saying you can't commit to the holiday at all and on reflection you think if you go you want the holiday to be just family as you really need some quality time - you'll be happy to give them recommendation though for booking their own holiday.

We had it once when we mentioned we were planning to go to florida. I wouldn't have minded so much but they were having a lot of problems in their relationship and were fans of spending as little as possible. They seemed to think we could sat exclusively at shitty buffets then she'd spend her time with me and the men would buddy up.

I actually like spending time with my husband so said I didn't think we wanted the same thing from our holidays. But I felt awkward as fuck having to have the conversation.

Next year would be a good time to try somewhere new.

Come on OP. I know these things can be awkward but respond now “Oh crikey, we’re not even sure we want to go ourselves next year. Obviously feel free to check it out yourselves but we can’t commit to a joint holiday unfortunately “. There is no way you should let that just go, it’s your holiday, you deserve to spend it however you choose.

What's wrong with saying "actually we like going on holidays just ourselves so have no plans to share a holiday".

We have friends who would love to plan holidays with us - and I really like them but I've just said "we like going by ourselves" they joke about it now as in "never going to happen is it - that cruise"

Just tell them plans have changed, kids can’t be taken out of school,and you don’t know what you are going to do yet.

Stick to your guns now and put a stop to this.

Pick a place you want to go to, book it for a time that suits you and tell them nothing. If they keep up the pressure to go to the place they want to gatecrash then be blunt and say that either you won't be going at all or you want to spend time alone together as a family.

I don’t know how someone can gatecrash a holiday that isn’t even booked. Just don’t book a holiday 🙄