Chickenpox!

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Baby group this morning and at the end of the session one of the mums was showing another mum (her friend) spots on her Dc and said "oh he's got more now, think it's definitely chickenpox then". The child had sat and played alongside the other babies/toddlers all morning and she'd not mentioned that she thought he might have chickenpox at all.

I'd overheard so asked if she thought he had chicken pox, why didn't she say something at the start of group. I've never personally had them and I'm pregnant so I admit I do get a little worried when they go round. But even without that, my Ds is only 7 months so don't fancy him getting them yet and some babies were only a few months old. The chicken pox child is a toddler.
She replied that he was contiguous before the spots anyways so any of the kids in the room could have them, which I do get. But surely it's different if you actually know (or highly suspect) that they have them. Or was I unreasonable?
She went off in a bit of a huff saying I'd made her feel bad and like her Dc weren't welcome.

My son had chicken pox recently, I was bored out of my mind stuck inside, but I wouldn’t have taken him anywhere until all of his spots were scabbed over, it would be really selfish to inflict it on others.

YABU. That other mother is completely selfish and ignorant, bringing her kid to a place where there are lots of other younger babies when she knows that her child is contagious! I would've said something stronger than you did, OP.

Just seconding suggestion of calling GP (or perhaps midwife as they will be able to have booking bloods checked for up to date immunity) - this is important. Will also be able to advise on next steps depending on your stage of pregnancy as this is a pretty close/definite exposure, and may require further action if you remain non-immune.

Completely agree that she’s a right twat, and totally inconsiderate.

Sorry you’ve had to go through this OP!

YANBU, that was meant to say!

My DS was seriously ill with CP.
I am immunosuppressed so would be very ill if I was in contact with CP.
She was very inconsiderate and selfish.

I would agree that she and her children weren't welcome, for goodness sake. She was being massively u and showing a total disregard for the health of others.

I don't think her Dc was particularly close to mine at all I'm not sure how close contact needs to be to catch chicken pox though. I'm hoping we're both ok, we go away in a few weeks too so really hoping we are.
It wasn't just for my benefit though, I did think and I'm glad posters on here agree, that if you know or think your child has something like chicken pox you stay away from others as much as possible. I'm not saying don't leave the house, but a walk round the park is different to a baby group in smallish enclosed room, with sand/water/toys etc that all the children are playing in/touching/putting to mouths.

Oh wow. What a selfish mum. While it’s true that chicken pox are more contagious before the spots it is still plain stupid to take your child so play group etc if you think they may have them.

My DC had them 2 weeks apart. DS caught them from school first and I was pretty certain DD would catch that off DS and because I knew how contagious it was before the spots I kept her away from busy places such as toddler groups, soft play etc and the spots appeared exactly 14 days after my son had it so I’m glad I did.

Chicken pox can be dangerous for anyone with a weakened immune system as well as pregnancy ladies, small babies etc. So selfish on her behalf.

Did you let the staff know? They may want to warn other parents.