To ask for your positive break up stories when you don’t want to let go?

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Have NC for this. Have been gathering the strength to post this and think I’ve just got to bite the bullet and do it

Me and my on/off boyfriend of 6 years split up yesterday. I’m pretty sure this is really the end because I’m currently sat in a cafe opposite our flat while his mum packs up his belongings (100% trust her, she is lovely and just as devastated as I am)

I really am not ready to let go. I love him with whole entire heart and have fought and fought to be with him for the rest of my life. I am beyond devastated. I honestly don’t know how I’m going to move on from this and don’t really have anybody to support me- I don’t have a good relationship with my own family and while I do have a handful of friends I don’t want to bother them with this and there is only so long they can hold my hand for which is perfectly understandable

People have told me and told me he doesn’t deserve me, he belittles me, drops me and picks me up again when it’s convenient for him which is true- but I love him. He is my world

I’ve got no idea what I’m going to do. I couldn’t even face sleeping in the bedroom last night so spent the night crying sat between the kitchen floor and the bathroom being sick.

I just want the pain to stop. I know it’s time to call it a day because this just keeps happening but I can’t let go

for you OP. Stay strong, you will get through this. I'd recommend having a wee read of the Greg & Amiira Behrendt book 'It's Called a Break Up Because It's Broken.' Be kind to yourself, take this time to heal, and move on to better things. Greg Behrendt also wrote 'He's Just Not That Into You', which could also be useful for sussing the next one out Good luck

It will be ok. You will be fine, better than fine, amazing! You have your whole future, although it hurts right now and you can’t see any of the potential, I promise there are good things when you’re ready for them.
At the end of 2016 my 4 year relationship broke down and I was heartbroken, it was a mutual split and just so so sad.
Once I’d gotten over the worst of it I decided to do a bit of on line dating, the first (and only) man I met up with is now the father of my child and we’re totally happy and loved up.
My ex is also very settled and happy.
A lot can change in a very short space of time. Give yourself time to process, focus on you and the things you enjoy, be selfish and prioritise your health and happiness. Something which really helped me cope was alllwing myself time to grieve in the day, it meant I was not balling my eyes out in the loos at work! If I got upset at random times I would think “no, i will address this later” and sometimes I’d cry the whole drive home and sometimes I’d find that I didn’t need to because the moment had passed, allow yourself time to process feelings but try not continually ruminate.

Just found out he is already dating. Just wow

Delete and block him off all social media.

If you have mutual friends in common then tell them not to tell you about him as you don't want to know.

I know it hurts like fuck right now but it will get better, I promise.

I know this hurts, but getting him out of your heart will clear a space for someone worth loving.

Poor you! Have a and . I've been there. I was absolutely heart broken when I split with my ex of 8 years. I, like a PP, spent months fantasising that we'd get back together. Until he met someone else & quickly married her. I was heart broken all over again. Now, I am amazed I felt like that. With the benefit of hindsight I can see how toxic our relationship was. It would never have made either of us happy, ever! Instead I met the most wonderful man and we are still ecstatically happy together 10 years later. Hang on in there! Try to keep busy and get yourself out there meeting new people and doing new things. The aim is to get to a place where you are open to meeting someone new! When I met my now husband I felt like the penny dropped - it's meant to be easy with the right person, not a battle to stay together. Good luck and take care of yourself!! x

It will be okay.

Don't look at his social media or try to make contact. It will just make it harder for you.

My uni boyfriend, who at the time talked about marrying me, broke up with me unexpectedly by email. I was devastated.

We grabbed lunch about 3 months later and it was still painful but not terrible. I was quite sad because he acted very bitter and cold, which was really unlike him.

I met my now husband one year to the date after we broke up. I'm so glad that my uni boyfriend wasn't still around which would have prevented me getting together with the person I love so much more. I also realized over time there was a lot about the first boyfriend that drove me nuts and I'm glad I don't have to put up with it forever now.