AIBU about bf friend

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I am hoping IABU, I met my bf just before christmas, got together "properly" end of January, We were just chatting on saturday about friends etc, and he happened to mention that he used to date his female best friend of his (who I know about) He said they dated each other for 3-4 months about 3 years ago. Please tell me I am being totally unreasonable to be bothered by this? Why am I so bothered?

I can't possibly imagine why you are so bothered about someone he dated THREE YEARS AGO. It's quite ridiculous and a massive waste of energy.

I understand why you are feeling this way, but yabu to let it annoy you.
It was 3 years ago, it's in the past. Try to enjoy what you've got now

@theboomtownrat I wouldn't say I am annoyed about it, it just bother's me and I don't know why. But you are both right, I should just forget about it I suppose.

Makes sense you’d be bothered by it but try not to show it. It was ages ago and before you.

Why am I so bothered?
Cos you're insecure in yourself?
Maybe you're one of 'those women' who think guys shouldn't have any female friends of significance or remain friends with ex's?

YABU
You can’t stop someone from cheating by worrying about it. Just end it if he does!

It was three years ago. I wouldn't worry about it.

YABU. My husbands witness on our marriage certificate was his ex girlfriend. What does it matter?

I am still very good friends with my ex bf.
When we first met we got on so well that we thought it was attraction, we soon realised that we were just meant to be friends and not lovers. This is likely to be the case with your partner.
Don’t let jealousy ruin your life! My ex is now married and so am I and all four of us are great friends.

Well they’ve had 3 years to get it together if they were going to. They haven’t so it’s nothing to worry about.

I dated a guy who was a friend for a bit but it was like snogging a relative - even the hand hold was creepy.

Don't stress. I'm not the least bit interested in my friend ex. Prob the same for your bf- Your bf would still be with her if he was in love with her.

Try not to be insecure or you'll push him away.

You are all so right, I haven't mentioned to him how I am feeling, partly because I know how ridiculous it sounds, Things are going good between us so I am just going to concentrate on that and enjoy it

There’s nothing you can do about it but I can see why it might bother you.
I am friends with one of DP’s ex’s and I did occasionally get a flash of jealousy at first when I saw them together having fun. It was the thought that he’d seen every part of her and used to orgasm with her... sounds graphic but it did irrationally pop into my head and make me feel a bit sick.
I don’t care now I’ve got to know her, she’s lovely so I can see why he still likes her company.