Ex husband new partner

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Hi all. This is my first time posting on anything like this. Not sure if I'm looking advice or a rant. I've been separated nearly two year nows my ex has had partner after partner since and has had the last 2 women involved with our children both within 6 months of each other. I don't feel comfortable with this and really don't no how to express myself. His new gf he's been with couple of months and has had her around the children everytime she's there it's big family days out with them. Yes I'm probably jealous as that was my little family. My 5 year old has referred to her as mummy at daddy's after the first meeting and it breaks my heart. Knowing I've given birth raised my children and there daddy thinks it OK to introduce every women as he swears its forever and he's moving in with her (he says this about every women and the last 2. 6 months apart) honestly I just feel like I need to vent and no one understands.

You will be told by others you are unreasonable I suspect but I do understand how you feel. You don't really have grounds to object unfortunately apart from regarding your DC calling someone else mummy. FWIW I think your ex sounds incapable of putting the DCs welfare above his own but you can't tell him who he can introduce the DCs to.

I've never stopped in introducing as I know I have no say in it what so ever. He does ask me before which I don't no why he bothers as he does as he wants. The current gf was on the scene a month before he introduced them. I just worry how it's all affecting the children as they've had so much in 2 years. Being moved about by him different girlfriends and now a new one who he plans on moving in with in a couple of months

I had the same situation and now mine are teenagers they don't really like to get involved with the new gf unless she has been around for a good few months. They too were sick of the change and getting to know the gf only for her to be dumped shortly after.

Totally understandable that you'd be upset but I don't think there's alot you can do unfortunately. Your kids will notice this pattern too when they get older

I get where you are coming from, but you cannot control his life choices. He's not doing anything illegal or endangering the children from a safeguarding issue. Thats the bottom line.

He’s completely irresponsible introducing a parade of women to your children. It’s true you can’t do anything about it but I don’t blame you for hating it. My husband has children with his ex and we were very careful about how, when and where I met them, making sure we were serious first and not going in too strong. It’s so unfair on children to let them form attachments to people who don’t hang around. They should call her by her name, they only have one mummy. Sorry he’s such a twat OP

My sympathies. I've been there.
There is nothing you can do, except maybe try to keep things light when you speak about her to the kids, as in 'one of Daddy's friends'. As they get older they will understand that these women may well be transient and not to invest too much.
My son found this pretty easy, being rather self-centred, my daughter, rather more upsetting, but she did get it eventually.
Now she takes no more than a passing interest in her father's girlfriends, and says she is not interested in meeting them until it is s proper long-term relationship.
Hasn't met one for a while!