I unfollowed 3 people and 2 messaged me to ask why!

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I use Instagram. Not much and I post sparsely. I unfollowed 3 people last night. They're not really friends, just people I've met a couple of times through other people and have been in the same circle for a few years. I see them once in a blue moon and I don't have their numbers etc.

I unfollowed three people, and 2 of them had messaged me within a couple of hours to ask why and one told kid I was rude. I don't really know what to say

WIBU? Am I obliged to follow them? I doesn't mean I don't like them I just barely know them and they don't interest me. I hardly use social media and didn't realise some people are so hurt by this kind of thing. I don't know how they even realised that I had unfollowed to be honest!

I unfollowed three people, and 2 of them had messaged me within a couple of hours to ask why and one told kid I was rude. I don't really know what to say confused

Best not to say anything really. They're both obviously very insecure and needy and the one calling you rude is just weird.

It's worrying that so many people think social media is real life. There's actually an app for intagram that tells you who's unflollowed so maybe they use that? Unless they constantly monitor who is following them. I regularly unfollow/unfriend if I'm not interested in what they're posting and expect people do the same to me. People who worry about this stuff need to step away from fb and Instagram. It can't be healthy to care so much.

Oh god how insecure of them! When someone I only know through other people get engaged or pregnant I unfollow as I cannot stand wedding or baby planning. That's my choice. If they asked why K would tell them but it hasn't happened yet

It is all image and showing off. Handy as a communication tool and great for research but other than that it can be quite a soul destroying pastime. I wouldn't be without it as facebook t is an excellent way of keeping in touch with people who live far away from me but that said I do not live by it and do not aspire to either.

I think they can tell because you start popping up in their people they may know

there are apps to see who has unfollowed you (and if you pay for them, you can see who has deleted likes/comments, who 'stalks' you - loads of random stuff, not sure how good this is, i refuse to pay what they want for it!) I use an app like this on a hobby account - if they unfollow me, then I unfollow them - If i just dont want to see their posts, then I mute to avoid awkward messages

to some people, instagram is all about the numbers... how many followers, how many likes, how many posts etc so they would see in their app you have unfollowed them, but its a bit rude to ask why though!

just block them!

You broke the rules of their giant popularity game. Make sure you block as well as unfollow in future

The fact that they even noticed you unfollowed them says more about them than it does you. It’s totally sad and pathetic on their part - especially that they messaged you to ask why.

I don’t think you were being unreasonable at all.

They sound absolutely pathetic

I don’t think they’re unreasonable actually, if they are your friends. Deleting your friends from social media is actually a hurtful thing to do in the real world.

I can understand feeling a bit 'oh, was it something I said?

I’ve definitely experienced this. And mild hurt feelz.

However

But think it's a bit ott to actually message about it.

My cold, dead body would not dream of approaching people about it.

What I hate is people who announce on whatever SM platform they use that they’ve had a friends “cull” because the sheer numbers have become unmanageable and causing them “stress”. So if you’re still seeing their posts, it’s because you made the grade.

I’ve unfriended a few people after seeing that, the self-important windbags.

I don’t think they’re unreasonable actually, if they are your friends. Deleting your friends from social media is actually a hurtful thing to do in the real world

If they’re dear friends, no. A mature personage might enquire mildly about no longer seeing your posts, lest you deleted them by accident (it happens).

A less mature type me would just block the deleter so they couldn’t see anything I postedc thereafter on mutual friends’ pages.

I've un followed and de friended dozens of people over the years and people have done the same to me.
The reasons I defriend tend to be
1 their posts are full of England first type of posts so they have to go.

2 people that are no longer in my social circle and are unlikely to be. By that I generally mean parents from different towns whose child was playing in the same ice hockey team when they were in the under 11s or under 16s. DS doesn't play anymore, I'm not likely yo bump into them and we only had one thing in common.

People who have defriended me tend to be ex colleagues from about 25 years ago and I didn't have much contact on SM anyway,

friends ex partners. While we were a friendship group tha was fine but some exes have deleted us once they split with our friends.

I'm not sure who else, Ive not really noticed or cared!

I completely deleted facebook about 2 years ago (I was an early adopter and had a lot of "friends" on it) and I bumped into a woman who I had met a few times at playgroups who I hadn't seen for 4 or so years in the high street. She had a go at me and demanded to know why I had unfriended her!

I love Instagram and use it every day, but I am super-selective about who I follow rather than unfollow people, which is possibly quite rude. I might like to see photos of cats or babies or lunch, I don't generally want to follow accounts that only post photos of one of those things. If I am following an account which suddenly starts to post daily photos of avocado on toast, and nothing more, I will usually mute it. I unfollow if someone's posts offend me - homophobic remarks, for example. My followers fluctuate, but I would never, ever dream of hunting down an unfollower and messaging them!

I deleted an old school friend by accident on Facebook. Before I'd even had time to rectify, she emailed to say I was a stuck up bitch and who needed me anyway.

Needless to say I didn't follow her again.