To park of neighbour's drive

[Margyseries]

I went to my parent's house today for my dad's birthday. The road has spaces on it but these were all taken up and my parent's drive was full with their cars. The other spaces on the road need a permit and I didn't want to risk getting a ticket.
My parent's drive is next to our neighbour's who watched me grow up from a child to a woman. I quickly pulled onto her drive to run in and grab a permit pass to park on the road.
I was on the neighbour's drive for under a minute.
The neighbour wasn't going anywhere but she came out to say something to which I responded "I'm so sorry I'm moving" and my parents had a huge go at me for this and my mum sent the woman an apology text.

It really got to me. I don't see an issue with it in the slightest as I thought we were neighbourly - she knows who I am and it was literally for 30 seconds.

I now feel so upset by the reaction. I usually go out my way to help and assist others. Would you be this angry in the same situation?

unless you had her prior express permission YABU

You were in the wrong really. I don't understand why you were so upset by the neighbour saying something if you know each other so well.

Your DM was embarrassed by your actions so she sent a conciliatory text to her neighbour, to make sure all was good. That sounds reasonable to me.

Storm in a teacup, OP, don't worry about it. 🙂

OK back just catching up.

There is absolutely no privilege. The point is, I've known her forever. She shouldn't be concerned and should respect that we have been so neighbourly to her.

FWIW, her friends/family have parked on our drive before and we've never had a problem, however, if there's a space on ours it means someone is out and about to return. She usually tells them to move, we've never said a word.

By the time I could have knocked on her door, I would have already had the pass.

You only have one permit per household, so no I can't stash them away.

There is actually NEVER a parking issue on that road, everyone has a drive so there's rarely a need to park on the road. But it was a bank holiday and maybe people visiting.

Can't block my parent's drive as it's on a junction.

You still haven't said what she said to you.

She shouldn't be concerned and should respect that we have been so neighbourly to her
Why should your neighbour be grateful for basic courtesy which I’m sure she has extended to you in return? My neighbours are lovely and kind but I’d still be annoyed if they parked on my drive without asking. How was the neighbour supposed to know it was you and you’d only be a minute? You could have been any random CF parking on her drive which is why she came straight out.

In all honesty OP I don’t think ywbu. I couldn’t imagine being annoyed enough to say something to a neighbour that I had known for a long time parking on my drive for a minute or so. You apologised and moved your car so that imo is enough. People seem to get offended by the smallest of things these days.

Does she park on your parents' drive without asking? Then she's a CF for complaining about you.

Why did your mum apologise to her if neighbour also parks on your parents' drive?

Anyway, I would ignore her from now on, can't be doing with hypocrites.

I've attached a pic, hopefully it works. Thought this is the only opportunity for me to ever do it.

She was coming out of her house which is why I quickly pulled in and she looked at me like '????' and I said 'I'm sorry just need to grab a pass' and she seemed to look at me like 'ok' and I was back in the car and off in seconds.

There's no permit spaces, it allows you to park legally on yellow lines.

Diagram makes it look like there's room between my parent's cars but there isn't that's just my drawing.

She has FRIENDS that park on our drive. She also sends round people to wait at ours if she's running home late (always texts before but I don't have her number). My mum invites her for tea/coffee and bakes her cakes regularly.

Whilst it is cheeky I suppose my issue was more like the reaction was as if I'd done something horrific. Not a simple neighbourly ask. I would NEVER care if someone did this to me because it's basic courtesy. It's not hard to just be a decent human.

Also she knows it's me, you'd be blind not to. Mostly because it was bright outside, she was outside, and we're the only brown family in the white neighbourhood (Ok bit of a joke but also i'm very distinctive looking!)

she looked at me like '????' and I said 'I'm sorry just need to grab a pass' and she seemed to look at me like 'ok'
So she didn’t say anything and just let you park? In which case I’m not sure why you’re complaining about her?

Excellent pic, OP.

So how did your parents find out about it?

So she was already out & you told her what was happening before she had a chance to say anything?

"She has FRIENDS that park on our drive"

Don't you mean your parent's drive & isn't that up to them?

. She shouldn't be concerned and should respect that we have been so neighbourly to her.

So she’s not even allowed to give you a quizzical look when you barge into her space and park on her property?!
I’ve occasionally been in your position when visiting my DD. When there’s no space on the street, I’ve knocked at the neighbour’s door and asked if I can leave my car in front of their garage, promising to move it immediately if they need to get their car out. They’ve been fine with that, but I would never assume consent in advance - I’d ask permission every time, to show respect for their property. You do sound a wee bit entitled, OP!

She may have wondered who it was parking on her drive and came out to see but once she knew it was the OP and once she’d explained that she was just popping in her parents to get the pass I can’t imagine why she or anyone would be annoyed at this.
I mean really?

The amount of “CF” threads on MN these days is depressing. People “fumming” and being affronted, taking offence at things that barely warrant an eye roll. It’s actually ridiculous.

I know. People are so intolerant of the most minor faux pas.

So all tbe did was look at you? You whete on her drive where on earth was she supposed to look? The sky? Honestly she made no complaints what so ever and you have reacted like she is ungreatfull for some unknown reason. Take a long hard look at yourself OP.

You were lucky you didn't drive into your neighbour's pond :)

So your parents have to entertain HER guests until she gets home?? CFer

You parked on her drive then she looked at you. The end Hardly any need for your dramatic post.

She was coming out of her house which is why I quickly pulled in and she looked at me like '????' and I said 'I'm sorry just need to grab a pass' and she seemed to look at me like 'ok' and I was back in the car and off in seconds.

So she didnt have a problem with you?

This wouldn't bother me and it doesn't seem to have bothered the neighbour, it seems you're annoyed at your parents cause the neighbour has done nothing wrong.
The one thing I would say is it's not up to you what the neighbour should do so you can't go about dictating what she should and shouldn't do, that part of your post did sound unreasonable

This is such a non event which your neighbour probably forgot about instantly and is now scratching her head wondering why she got the txt from your parents.

From what you described, it sounds as if your neighbour didn't have a problem with you parking there but your parents did hence the need for them to send her an apology by text.

However, you do come across as entitled. You seem to think that because she has known you for many years and your parents are neighbourly towards her that you have the right to park on her driveway albeit for a short period of time.

You have no right to park on her driveway and should have common decency to know this.

She was coming out of her house which is why I quickly pulled in and she looked at me like '????' and I said 'I'm sorry just need to grab a pass' and she seemed to look at me like 'ok' and I was back in the car and off in seconds.

That's not the same as in the OP.