MIL - giving sugar to DS

[emmar88]

DDis slightly overweight (school recently advised after reception weigh-ins ) however has a generally healthy diet and we are making improvements where we can to ensure low sugar intake.
I've discussed with family members and in-laws about portion control and no unnecessary added sugar.
Since the conversation with MIL a week ago she has continued to bring over unhealthy food for DD when she visits (eg a day after our conversation she gave DD a kinder surprise at 11am when she was babysitting)
I was livid made a comment but thought probably a one off. Tonight she's called over and given my DD another kinder surprise at 7pm I obviously promptly took it of her and we've had a tantrum and straight to bed (advised she can have the chocolate after school tomorrow )
I can't understand if she's 1) absolutely thick or 2) she has no respect for my wishes and thinks I'm a joke
Either way I am going to be texting her tonight, I think I know what to say but does anyone have advice ? AIBU? I'm just fed up with the battle, and don't want to leave me DD in her company which is inevitable.

I feel your pain. My kids used to drink plain milk without any bother. Left my Mother mind them and suddenly, they dont like white milk anymore. They just want hot chocolate like granny makes . No way I'm going to give them that before bed.

You sound like you know what you need to say.if she is round 4 times a week and babysits I would try and be as grateful a nd polite as possible of course. You don't want to fall out or cause problems yet. Obviously if she continues after your text then you will have to look at reducing contact time a bit and you will have to intervene with all "treats".

I can't believe there are so many people saying ignore the weigh ins! At my children's primary 16% of reception children are overweight and 21% of year 6. I don't think it's much of a leap to assume that the vast majority of the overweight year 6 children are the same ones who were overweight when they were 5. I don't believe that it's a completely different group. Its easy to convince yourself that your children couldn't possible be in that category but by year 6 1/5 of children are.