To wish I had something to do on my birthday

[Buffyflunny]

My birthday is on Wednesday and I'm dreading it slightly. I'll be at home with my 5 week old DD, which doesn't sound bad at all i just hate the thought of my birthday being like any other day. I don't like to make too much of a fuss about my birthday, I haven't had a party since I was about 5 and I hated every minute of it, but I still like to do something to make the day a little special. Well to be fair I usually have work on my birthday which isn't very special but at least I got to be around friends and people I tolerated all day. Everyone I know is busy considering it's the middle of the week and DH will be at work till 6

We don't all get to celebrate our birthday on the actual day - make a plan for the weekend. And/or tell your husband you'd like to do something in the evening. And/or make lunch plans with your friends (if you are mobile with the baby).

There are many solutions within your reach here.

You do have stuff to do. With your new born daughter. She has to be the focus right now. Your time will come again when you can please yourself for the day.....but not this year. Surely she is present enough.

Go out and get yourself a nice lunch. And celebrate with your DH in the evening.

Do something nice, a walk, lunch out or even just a slice of cake. Or see if there is a baby cinema.

I would get out somewhere with the baby in the day for some fresh air just so I've left the house then have a takeaway/nice m&s meal for tea with dh when he gets in and arrange something for the weekend.

Order yourself a treat lunchtime takeaway, if there are any takeaways nearby. And make sure you've got a good cake.

You need to take this in to your own hands. Do something fun with your baby, go shopping, arrange to meet friends for coffee and cake, invite people round, go to your favourite cafe. In the evening buy your favourite wine and get a takeaway. Its hard when you're at home with a baby and no one offers to do something with you- however you have to be proactive or youll just sit at home sad and resentful.

Get an internet supermarket delivery booked of a cake, scones cream & jam and some alcohol free elderflower pressé, and some flowers too. Invite a friend or neighbour or just indulge yourself!
DH can have a slice of cake when he gets home!

Get your favourite music playing and sing or dance along!

But it will be special op. You have a tiny squishy baby to hold!!

Go out! 5 week old babies are infinitely portable!! Go to the cinema or the shops or a restaurant! Anything you fancy really!

Make it special.

If it was me I would take baby into nearest city shopping and for relaxed coffee (possibly meet a friend) then meet DH from work fur birthday dinner!

Do you have any family or friends - old or new - on maternity leave, who SAH or not working for whatever reason? To meet up with in the day.

If you’re out and about with DC, and DC is reasonably calm in the eve, you could go out for dinner with DH and DC. Or if bottle feeding you could get childcare and go out just with DH.

Or take away!

I wasn’t out and about much with DC1 at that stage, and didn’t know many people, once or twice did coffee and cake alone with DC in naice coffee shop as a treat. Or DH would bring home food and wine.

If you’re well enough to go out and about then go and watch something in the cinema during the day. It’ll be mostly empty and your dd will just sleep or feed.
Or go and have a nice lunch somewhere, buy a fancy cake, buy a present for yourself, go for a walk somewhere scenic,

You get to spend the day snuggling a new born baby. I honestly cannot think of a nicer way to spend the day.

Eat cake, watching a box set cuddling a tiny baby. Wonderful

Then husband home in really good time to cook special meal or order a takeaway

Unless something else is going on yabu

I agree with the suggestions of a nice lunch and another treat of cake etc in the day. If you feel up to it go out with your baby and treat yourself to a cake or a look round the shops. I had my birthday 3 days after DD was born; we were still in hospital and I had a takeaway breakfast pastry from costa and a lunch at from the canteen. It was special because it was my first as a mum.

I had something similar, although my DS is 2 years old not 5 weeks! My birthday was just before the weekend, for the first time in years OH couldn't get the day off, I didn't have the car and the forecast was shocking!
I went out anyway, better to get some fresh air if you can. Went and are all the calamari I could somewhere just a short walk away and had plans with DP in the evening.
Try and get out if you're able to, just to treat yourself to a big slice of cake. Or if not, get your DH to stop off somewhere to get you some nice supplies in for the day, and watch a film or relax with a book during naps, whatever you want to treat yourself! And then get a cheeky takeout in the evening!
Hope you have a lovely day, whatever you do xxxxx

Of course having DD is special, by special I only meant out of the ordinary. But thank you for the suggestions

Not a pity post but I mc 4 days before my bday one year.
Would have given my left kidney to have had a squishy baby to cuddle the next year...
Grab some poster paint and make some hand /foot print pics of dc to keep forever!!