Why are women so catty?
I've read two threads on here now discussing parenting techniques (or rather criticising them).
I've been thinking about this a lot this week too, but this had pushed me over the edge in annoyance.
I feel that many mums seem to feel like they have to make excuses for what they do and I'm tired of it. Nobody owes anybody and apology or explanation.
Example 1: I was in a lift with my toddler ds and another woman with similar aged baby chomping on a big plain baguette. I smile at her. Mum quickly says "oh if she'll eat it, she can have it!" I wasn't asking for an explanation as to why her daughter wasnt eating vegetable crudites.
Example 2: at a stranger's house, her primary age kids were watching post school movie. She immediately jumped in and explained that they were just watching it as they needed to be kept occupied and contained in the one room for a little while.
I'm not judging these women at all, I'm just upset that they had to make what im sure were excuses, even if they were light hearted reflexive ones. (I really feel this us what was happening in both scenarios).
Here come my controversial theory..... if maternity leave and paternity leave were equal, as in some other countries (Denmark.... you can see groups of men hanging out having coffee with their babies) then there would be a whole lot less judgement and insecurity.
I shouldn't let it get to me but other recent experiences of cliquey, downright rude mums in baby groups had got me thinking that really, many of them are no different to a bunch of teenage school girls.
Cant we all just get along and support each other?!