To ask if you got over someone you never thought you would?

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My husband of 9 years has left me for someone else, this is a man I thought I would spend the rest of my life with. It feels like my heart has been ripped out of my chest, and I struggle to breathe sometimes. I'm just so heartbroken and find it difficult to imagine how I will get over this. Would love to hear your stories of how you got on the other side and found love again.

I'm so sorry this has happened to you.
I don't want to share the story of how I did get over someone who I thought I would never get over but I want to say that life will get brighter for you even if it looks very dark just now.
Sending love and strength to you.

When this happened to me, I realised that the man I loved never existed.
The man I thought I loved would never cause so much pain.
So clearly, the man who left me was not the man I loved.

Oh love, you have my sympathy

My advice is focus on one day at a time. You don't have to get over him today, or tomorrow, you just need to get through the day. When I was going through my worst heartbreak, I would take pleasure in the small things - a fun few hours with friends or a nice walk, and congratulate myself on getting through the day without too much crying. I'd go to bed each night telling myself - Tomorrow is another day.

You will get over him, but it takes time. Just focus on yourself. Keep busy, don't turn down any offers of help or social invitations. Keep doing stuff, and take each day one day at a time.

Take care of you, and happiness will eventually follow.

CrossCuttingThemes that sums it up for me. It's one of the truest statements I've ever read - thank you.

In the first stages it's too early to see through the pain and emotional distress but that realisation does come.

Yep - took me a few years but never think of him now when he once took all my dead space. Never thought that it would happen but it did.

grr HEAD not dead ffs....

I’ve been thinking of starting a similar thread OP! Right now, I feel deep sadness and grief! I initiated the breakup after a toxic relationship but I miss him, love him and think about him constantly! During yoga tonight I found myself fighting back tears.. this bit is shit, sending you lots of love OP

Yes, my dp before I met my present dp. Together for years from uni onwards, I cannot describe the intensity of feeling I had for him. He left me and I thought I'd never get over it.

I've been with current dp 12 years now, we have two dc, and I am happy in a way I never would have been with ex-p. I genuinely don't feel anything for ex-p, I can't imagine how I ever felt anything for him now, and why I didn't see what a pretentious arsehole he was.