Beloved DS has suddenly turned into a monster. AIBU to be hurt and surprised (lighthearted- well sort of!)

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Always had a really close, easy, fun relationship with DS1 (13). So easy in fact that I blithely thought we'd breeze through the teenage years. More fool me apparently.

For the last few days DS has been vile to me - snapping at me, ignoring me, making no effort to hide the fact that (despite the fact he used to think I was awesome) he now sees me as an object of contempt.

Now I'm not going to put up with crappy behaviour, obvs, but AIBU to be hurt and surprised by this?!

I know it's a well worn cliche that teenagers are suddenly like this but I think I thought everyone was exaggerating

If it’s a sudden change I would be worrying that something else was causing his distress. I would try and get to the bottom of whether something at school has upset him?

Sorry- made a bit of a mess of the title.

It's supposed to say 'light hearted - well sort of...'

There are a few threads in the teenager section might help you.

Yes HB, it does feel sudden!

I asked him what's up - he normally comes and talks to me if he's upset - and he launched into having a massive go at me to leave him alone and stop bothering him.

Which feels hard cos it wouldn't seem very caring of me to just ignore the fact he's obviously in a foul mood.

I'm being quite careful about giving him his space but he just seems so spiky all of a sudden.

Okay thanks McMen I'll take a look

sadly some dcs morph into stroppy teens overnight just like Kevin

Annoying and hard. But normal. We've just been through this. They come back. Hang in there.

Teenage years are so difficult and in my experience young teens are the worst. All I can suggest is back off with direct questioning but let him you know you are there if he needs you. Keep the communication channel open but at the same time do not accept abusive behaviour from him. Puberty is not an excuse for rudeness and vileness and the boundaries need to be enforced.
Can you suggest the two of you go out for a hot chocolate/cake/pizza and keep itight but see if you can pick up whats bothering him?

My teen had a go at me for bothering her I told her to never speak to me like that again she tried and I reiterated EVER surprisingly that's all it took that time

Mine weren’t like this .mind you they pulled me under mentally as children.it was like having very very naughty puppies..putting it nicely..by teenage years they had calmed down and have been mostly delightful ever since.now adults.