Paying for something you've not been billed for

[Queenbetty]

Went on a date, first order of drinks was taken at table, the rest were taken at bar and we paid as we went with exception of first round. Went to leave and I mentioned we hadn't paid for first round (which happened to be his) and he was quite happy not to pay it. However, I said I'd pay it if he didnt which forced him to (I would have paid regardless).

My friends think I'm crazy, I'm comfortable that I did "the right thing" and would have paid if he didn't. Are my friends right or am I? It was roughly £16 but I dont think that's the point. (As an aside, I'm the kind of person who will do another transaction at a self service till if I forget to put the bag through. I'm also told this is weird, I tend to agree with them on that point!).

No intention of changing to be honest, just curious what others think.

I would have done exactly the same as you.

I would also have found his dishonesty unattractive.

I always tell places if they've under (or over) charged me. I know people don't agree but I feel strongly about it. I couldn't be with someone who felt differently to me on this issue. My DH would always fess up if he'd been undercharged. I guess you have to decide if it's one of those important things to you.

If I'd noticed, I'd have done the same as you.

And as above would have found his dishonestly off putting.

Oh god that's terrible. Cut him loose.

Not weird at all. Just honest and principled. Well done!

Genuine oversight, fair enough or he thought it was all on same tab. But once you pointed it out I think it shows you're on a different wave length.
I would have paid.
I've even gone back to shops when they've made a mistake and tried to rectify it. If it's a supermarket and I've done a big shop and only checked the receipt on the way out then they aren't bothered as they say it's too late. But I'd still prefer to try to be honest.

I think I need to report this thread, mumsnet is broken - we're all agreeing

Ps the daily mail is the worst newspaper in the world, but any journalists trawling need to find a better publication to work for.

I agree with you and your actions. What he was prepared to do was theft, who wants to go out with a thief?

I take it there won't be a second date?

Sometimes in chain restaurants if you don't pay, the amount is docked from your server so definitely the right thing to do.

My parents drove an hour back to the nearest shop to pay for a 27p bag of pasta that hadn't been paid for. The store thought they were crazy and said don't worry about it but parents wouldn't leave until it had been sorted.
I'm the same. I'll go back and pay if something has been missed. And I'll also tell them if they're overcharging me.

Ps the daily mail is the worst newspaper in the world, but any journalists trawling need to find a better publication to work for.

Adding the word Daily Mail to your thread doesn't make any more interesting or more likely to get picked up and the story published on their website.

Try to find a better story and you'll get there.

You did the right thing.

@pamelax

I added that so it wouldnt end up in the daily fail fgs. Have you never seen that round these parts?! Its pretty identifying and there was a second date so I'd rather it didnt get picked up funnily enough.

I did name change, and I'm not a daily mail reader anyway so I'm unlikely to see it if some crappy journalist does decide to print it...

Queenbetty
if you don't want a story to end up in the DM or other, you don't post it on here.

Trying to attract the attention of a random journalist is a bit pathetic, your story is not that interesting. If it was, a couple of random comments about the DM wouldn't make any difference anyway.

I agree, a woman going on a date with a man, how identifying is it! You are taking huge risk by putting your story on here

ODFOD

Been here long enough to see what drivel they pick up.

then hopefully they will pick your non-story and you'll have your 5 seconds of DM fame.

Do you have an opinion on the actual thread, love? This is getting a bit tedious.

Queenbetty
"Love?"
feel free to ignore me if you are not getting the replies you hoped for and the DM hasn't contacted you yet.

No then 😂