To think my neighbour is nutty and possibly a little bit of a CF?

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I live in a block of 4 flats - which share a large garden with block next door.

It's fenced off and our flats have a washing line behind us in enclosed big and one around the side by car park. Literally 2m from garden!

2 2 bed flats and 2 1 bed.

It just happened that we fell into me and downstairs (2beds) using the garden one (our kids were toddlers at the time and safer) and downstairs neighbour (1bed) occasionally uses one around the side.

So we've had a kinda spoken but not set in stone (as such) agreement we use 2 sides each.

New neighbour moved in 2 years ago to other 1 bed and asked if allowed to use washing line which of course I said yes and we generally try through a pretty much unspoken rule to use just 2 sides for all to have equal access.

Noted other 2B neighbour would hang out 10 items (8 on 1 side and 2 on front rung of another side) whenever neighbour used line.

Made me 🙄 but I'm a live and let live type of person.

I work FT. My neighbour PT during school hrs 3 days a week. She knows if I've not hung out washing by the time I leave then line will be empty until next day.

So fast forward to this morning.

I'm hanging out stuff and have loads to do. Was using 2nd side as neighbour cane out house. Said hi etc and asked if she was doing any washing today and if she'd be out for a bit. Yes and yes.

"Great" I said. Told her I was just popping to supermarket but would make most of empty line and Nick extra side - especially as it'll dry quickly anyway.

She got in her car and sat in car park until I'd left. Thought nothing of it.

Came home 1.5 hours later to discover she'd done a wash (10 items) and has hung them 8 on one side and 2 tea towels on outside rung of other side right in middle of strip of line

She'd clearly hung around and done a quick wash to "bag" her sides. She's gone out now.

She's actually a really nice person and we always chat and say hello etc but AIBU to think she's a slight nut job with CF tendencies who clearly needs to get a life beyond the blinking line 😂

Sorry she said she wasn't doing any washing and was going shopping with her dd so would be a few hours at least!

Part and parcel of living in a flat with shared washing lines. I couldn't get upset about this.

In the nicest possible way OP it doesn't sound like your neighbour is the one who is obsessed with the washing lines

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Hang on!!!

I just hand out washing if there's space.

She's the one who will spread out to secure her 2 sides - even when not necessary.

I actually said in OP I just 🙄 as can't be arsed to get bothered about it.

And I'm not the one who actually went back inside to wash 10 things just to stop someone using more than 2 sides 😂😂

I get it's part and parcel of sharing - hence why I told neighbour to use it. She told me I should have said he couldn't use that one and had to use the one around the side.

She also complained to HO that the other flats put up 1 line in garden for them to use.
HO sent out letter asking if we objected and I just replied of course not - why can we have one and they can't

Get yourself some airers and dry your stuff inside??

Go crazy and hang your washing beside the placemarking tea towels.
You only live once.

Why can't you hang out your washing on the same line where she hangs 2 tea towels?
That's what I'd do.

Just peg your stuff around hers. No biggie.

Diagram please!

Why don’t you ask her why she uses two lines to hang her washing?! See if she admits she’s placemarking.

I'd stick some more lines up or get retractable lines or use couple of airers. Room for everyone. Would do my nut having to check whose is washing when

Don’t see how this is a big deal at all. If all of the washing lines are shared then just use the empty spaces on the washing lines next to her washing, it doesn’t matter if your washing is hung next to/ amongst hers.

And dont.understand why u cant hang stuff next to her tea towels

I'm confused to be honest.

Maybe your neighbour was going out then whatever she was doing got cancelled so came home and decided to do a wash ?

Or maybe she thought you were rude and a bit of a cf saying you’d be using her line for your washing especially since you had told her when she moved in that each person was to use 2 lines.

I do think counting how many items someone hangs out and where they hang them on a line is weird. So what if she hangs 2 items in the middle of her 2nd line ? A few items pegged in the middle of a line dry faster than being pegged at the edge.

You've been counting other people's washing! WTF?

I'm a bit confused without a diagram, but you say in your op that you asked if she was doing washing and she replied yes, so i would expect to see her washing on the line. Perhaps she hung about to get hers out before you got yours out if she was concerned you would take up all the room?
Not sure i could get too worked up about it. Just peg your stuff next to hers?

I love you,
I love you,
I love you alrighty,
I wish your pyjamas were next to my nightie,
Don't be mistaken,
Don't be misled,
I mean on the clothes line and not in the bed.

Dunno why but the tea towels reminded me.

The downside of flats, when I lived in a flat my neighbour stole my clothes off my line and actually wore them! Confronted her and she returned them🙄

I wouldn’t assume the tea towels reserve the line??? Just hang your stuff beside them

I use my airer outside of its nice and no space. But line drying does decrease the amount of ironing which I hate

Neighbour was definitely going out for a few hours when I saw her as she said so. Also she said she hadn't planned on washing. Even if she had she won't be home for an hour or 2 I wouldn't think from what she said.
I did say I could move mine if she came home and needed space.

Im honestly not bothered about the 2 sides or more thing! And yes - I could hang mine around hers.

Don't know why I didn't think of that tbh 🤦🏼‍♀️😂

"So we've had a kinda spoken but not set in stone (as such) agreement we use 2 sides each."

So by your own admission you use 2 sides each?

"Noted other 2B neighbour would hang out 10 items (8 on 1 side and 2 on front rung of another side) whenever neighbour used line."

Is this not 2B neighbour using just 2 sides (with 8 items on one side, and 2 items on another side)?

"She's the one who will spread out to secure her 2 sides - even when not necessary."

But surely she shouldn't have to, if there is an "agreement (you) use 2 sides each"?

"AIBU to think she's a slight nut job with CF tendencies who clearly needs to get a life beyond the blinking line"

No idea if you are BU, because not only has the information you have given totally confused me, but also it is you who is coming across as the "nut job with CF tendencies who clearly needs to get a life beyond the blinking line". Exactly that!

She's claiming territory, definitely reserving a section. We have an indoor airer that we can put out if needed. That way we can always hang laundry out. A man here reserves by leaving his pegs on the lines, spaced out for his next load. Literally never brings pegs in, ever.

Use the bits of clothes line that are free. Buy a clothes horse or two and have them in the garden or inside. Get on with your life...

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