To block his family?

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Er03 · 05/05/2019 11:59

DD is 14 and untill last year she had regular contact with her dad. That was untill DD decided she didn't want to see him anymore, he would often get angry with her over little things, constantly criticised her and she just didn't want to deal with him anymore. Since then she's maintained contact with his family, her grandparents, aunt and cousins. However they've been trying to convince her to start seeing him again, she's made it clear she doesn't want to. Now her nan and aunt keep messaging me saying I've been putting words in her mouth and how great of a person he actually is and how I'm a terrible mother for stopping her from seeing him. She's 14 years old, it's her decision whether she sees him or not, that's what I told her when she said she didn't want to see him anymore. WIBU to just tell them it's DD's choice and then block them? I don't feel like it's anything to do with me, besides from supporting DD I don't want to be involved

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washinglions · 05/05/2019 12:10

Just contact them and say that you have facilitated contact for many years, and now your dd has reached the age where she can make her own mind up and decide for herself how much contact she wants to have with him.

I wouldn't block them though, just leave it at that.

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Er03 · 05/05/2019 12:20

Thank you, I'm only considering blocking them because they keep messaging me

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Banhaha · 05/05/2019 12:25

Do you still have contact with her dad? You could let them know you'd prefer to keep contact about contact between you and him?

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Er03 · 05/05/2019 12:36

I haven't really spoken to him since contact between him and DD stopped

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Banhaha · 05/05/2019 16:59

In that case what washinglions said sounds good to me. If they carry on after that you could say you don't want to discuss it further? Then I guess eventually it might escalate to "please stop contacting me about this" so they are clear you want it to stop.

Honeybee85 · 05/05/2019 17:20

They are acting their frustrations about this problem out on you. I think they are being very rude, its something between your DD and her parents and not really their business. If anything, they could have called you and ask you kindly what is going on.

I wouldnt block them for now but I would contact my ex husband to call them out on this.
He most certainly had a hand in this and besides that, it’s his family that is harassing you.

I would keep the blocking really as a last option.

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