WIBU to call DP for help?

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Have been unwell since last night. Rather than getting better as I assured him it would when he offered to come over earlier, it's gotten much much worse.

Am currently bent double, sweating and shivering, on the bathroom floor inbetween biblical liquid shitting sessions and agonising abdo pain. I'm no wuss, managed a 24 hr natural birth with only gas and air and this is bad.

I have the DC here so can't leave to go to the 24 hour shop.

I have no painkillers in the house and am perilously near to the end of my last loo roll (3 in 24 hrs 😮).

He's a 15 min drive away but would have to get a taxi as he had a few drinks earlier this evening.

WIBU to ask for his help? Honestly don't see how I'm going to get through the night without help ☹️.

It's not unreasonable to call him, he's your DP and presumably wouldn't want you to be struggling on your own?

Even without the dc I don’t see how you’d get to the shop. Ask him. Even if you really don’t want him to see you actually shitting, he can get you toilet paper which sounds essential! Remember to be very appreciative afterwards!

Seriously tell him to get a taxi home NOW

I think you should ring him pronto! You poor love. If you tell him what you just posted, he'd have to have a heart of stone not to help you out.
Hope you're better soon

Where exactly is the pain? It could be your gallbladder. If so, it will eventually ease off...

Sorry, that sounded very unsympathetic. Of course he should come and help.

No ask him op!

At the end of the day sounds like your going to need a bit of help, your not well and you have dc, and sounds like dire consequences if you don't

Hope you feel better soon

Thanks all. Think I'm reluctant to call him as we have been together 14 months and he has yet to see me in this kind of horrendous state. Plus the house smells like a particularly sulphurous barnyard 😷.

Also I'm pretty bad at asking for help in any context. Not my best quality.

Vim No idea what it is. I have episodes about 3-4 times a year.
Excruciating upper abdo pain and satanic diarrhoea for 24-48 hours. Rarely includes vomiting. Usually after consuming something 'bad' like pizza and wine.

Have never been well enough to go to docs and give a sample to have it checked at the time it's happened and then felt it was pointless to go afterwards when symptoms had gone and whatever it was was undiagnosable.

Oh no feel better soon!
I'd ring for immodiums, pain killers and loo roll, better that than get caught, maybe some sudocrem or similar for your poor bum too, thats got to be getting sore x

Umm if it is your gallbladder it may wear off. Or it may not. I was admitted in January with acute cholesytitis and that didn’t wear off on its own! I needed IV painkillers and antibiotics. I’m recovering at home after having my gallbladder removed on Thursday.

You sound really unwell and yes I’d call him.

Also the episodic events after eating something high fat sounds quite suspiciously gallbladder. Does the pain go up into your chest and feel like it’s coming out of your shoulder blade? Usually starts at night? Feel shivery and nauseous as well?

Go to your GP and get and abdo ultrasound. Mine showed multiple gallstones. I’m an otherwise healthy 40 something woman, not overweight.

I’m also a lone parent and it’s really scary being that unwell at night on your own in a house with dc.

Zoflora it's never been in my chest, shoulder or back which has made me discount gallbladder in the past. It's the front of my abdomen, quite high up under where your ribs end but radiates down into middle of abdomen as well. It comes in waves with breaks in between, a lot like labour.

Definitely doesn't feel like food poisoning

Have made it to bed with hot water bottle clamped to belly. Have bargained with myself and decided that if I have another attack within the next hour I'll ring him.

Thanks for the sympathy 💐

Could still be gallstones. Biliary colic (passing a gallstone) is often a lower pain. I’d still go to the GP and get checked out. Your gallbladder is under your ribs on the right side.

Whatever it is it needs sorting out. You poor thing I know exactly how your feeling (even if the cause is different!) and it’s horrible.

I was like this for a week! Never felt pain like it. I couldn’t walk beyond my kitchen for 3 days, and the bloating! I felt like I’d explode. I queried appendicitis, ovarian cysts, diverticulitis. The pain was just excruciating. In the end the GP decided severe viral gastroenteritis

Feeling better now, still a dull ache and some bloating a week on.

Could be kidney stones. I used to get the rund with an attack plus sickness.
Hope you feel better soon..

It's gallstones. I had EXACTLY the same type of attacks - no shoulder, back or chest pain but excruciating upper abdominal pain (worse than labour if you ask me).
See your GP as soon as possible and get referred for an ultrasound or CT scan. Turns out I had a small solar system of stones rattling around inside. One was almost the size of a golf ball.
In the meantime, call your DP! You poor, poor thing. I really feel for you

YABVVU to think getting through labour with certain pain relief determines your strength.
YANBU to call him for help.

I didn't ring him in the end but his spidey sense must have been tingling as be turned up first thing this morning with drugs, loo roll, soup for me and lots of food and treats for the kids. He's a goodun.

Thanks again for all the advice.

He sounds like a keeper! Please get yourself to the GP though, this shouldn’t be recurring even if it is only after fatty food. Get it sorted.

He's definitely a keeper Zoflora although I had that figured out on our first date ☺️.

Am still not right but lots better. Pains are less frequent and severe. Haven't been to the loo in a good few hours. Drugs are helping. Haven't eaten a single thing since Friday and honestly cannot face it but do feel very weak, shaky and dizzy with palpitations. Have taken a propranolol to try and settle things.

Going to make a GP appointment. Can't go through this again 😞.

Yikes lass. Definitely time to see the GP.

As for your OH - definitely a keeper!

Hope you feel better very soon

Also worth considering FPIES if it's always after the same food.