To ask when you think things are age appropriate?

[Futureisland]

I notice a lot of threads get derailed by the little details such as age appropriateness of tablets, playing out etc. So my question is what age roughly do you think is appropriate for phones, tablets, going out etc. Also where do you stay approx?

My opinion is:

Age 4: access to a tablet supervised
Age 5: playing outside within sight
Age 7: playing a bit further like up the street but still close by
Age 8: walking home / to school if close enough or the local shop
Age 9: access to a phone
Age 10: able to go anywhere in local area
Age 11: able to gradually stay home alone
Age 12: able to go anywhere within reason.
Age 13: I no longer check childs phone

I live near Glasgow and think this is roughly the norm for my area. Some threads I have been on kids age like 10 are still not allowed out to play alone and I wondered where / why this is.

I think most children 5 and over have tablets and supervised use at this age is fine. Dd is 8 and has needed a tablet for Maths based homework for a couple of years now. Things like Mathletics and times table rockstars.
We're close to school but would not let her walk to school at this age and certainly no one else in the year does.
Phone I think not needed before year 6

DS started to go to the shop alone at about 8 or 9, he couldn't play out in the street because it's used as a cut through by traffic but he was allowed to play out at his grandparents' house from about 6 within the cul de sac on his bike, going further as he got older. He was independently making his way to and from school on two buses each way by 11, I have never checked his phone but if he had been untrustworthy I would have done. He's nearly 19 now and is well adjusted and hasn't gone off the rails or been traumatised by my relaxed approach. He did spend a lot of time with his older brother and aunt though, who are of a similar age to each other and were teens when he was born. They would take him out with their friends all day and I would only see them when they were hungry

Re the tablet. My 6 year old gets homework that needs completed on a tablet / phone. When he was 4 he got homework on an app that taught phonics / reading. Now that he is 6 he regulary gets maths homework on an app too. These apps have teacher logins and all pupils are registered so the teacher checks they are doing it. I don't want my child using my expensive phone so instead he has his own cheap kindle fire.

I agree mostly but I would absolutely be checking a 13 year olds phone.

Agree with most but my DD is 15 and I still check her phone and have access to her social media 🤷🏼‍♀️ we do have a very good relationship though and she tells me absolutely everything

Mine weren’t really allowed to play out properly until about 9/10, the local park was the summer before secondary school I think.
I don’t consider myself over protective. I’d let them go to the shop alone at about 8, ply outside in my view ect but I live in central London, lots of people and on a busy road.

Op. I agree with your list.
But since my child got a phone for high school, our relationship, her attention span and creativity have diminished.
They're so bloody encompassing.
Which is partly why I've started reading real books again. Hoping she may revert....