To expect more?

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DP and I haven't seen each other for two weeks due to his work commitments and me being on a weekend away.
We were both fine with this because we have a nice happy relationship, but also keep independence too. I missed him quite a bit though.
I travelled four hours so we could meet up over the weekend and arrived yesterday evening, when he said he's off to the gym.
I thought this was odd because he can go to the gym whenever and surely he'd want to spend our first night together, actually together!
He then went to the gym again this morning whilst I was still asleep, which is fair enough because I would've been asleep still anyway so he may as well, but he came back with a lovely takeaway breakfast for himself and none for me which I found a bit strange. I know I'm more than capable of making myself breakfast but it would've been nice for him to think about me and pick me something up, surely? Or is that just being precious?
Anyway I just brushed it off with a joke. The rest of the day though he's spent watching bloody snooker which he knows I detest and bores me to tears, then when I say please can we not watch anymore snooker he goes to the telly plugs his playstation in and starts playing FIFA!
I thought today we could spend some proper quality time together, I didn't even want to go out but just to cuddle up in bed and watch a film or something. We've barely had a conversation because when he's concentrating on the telly of FIFA all you can get is the odd groan.
I know that it's his weekend too so maybe iabu to expect him to spend it the way I'd like, but I thought he would've missed me too and wanted to spend some nice time together

You are not being unreasonable at ALL. His behaviour is just bizarre and rude. I'm gobsmacked that he went to the gym the first night, and I'm beyond gobsmacked that he didn't bring home breakfast for you as well. That is so fucking rude and inconsiderate there aren't even enough words to express it!

All of this seems very deliberate to me, op. I think he might be trying to tell you something.

He sounds about 12

I don’t think he wants you there. I’m sorry OP

I feel really unwanted, and I think that's the case. Maybe this time apart has made him realise he prefers life without me :(

It really sounds like he’s trying to get rid of you, in a really immature way. After two weeks I’d expect maybe dinner and drinks, and then straight to bed! Surely you’re worth a nice evening? He’s putting no effort in at all.

Please don't waste your time with someone who shows you absolutely no consideration. Pack your things and go home. No arguing. No drama. Tell him it's over and go. He isn't worth losing your dignity over.

That's so mean of him. It definitely feels like you're an inconvenience being there. I'd pack up and go home to be honest and see if he makes any contact.

I read as far as “PlayStation” and stopped. He’s a child if he still “needs” that toy. You can’t expect to have an adult relationship with a child. So although you might want “more”, it’s not going to happen until you find an adult who is capable of giving “more”.

YANBU, he is being really thoughtless and rude. I would be asking him if something more serious is up?

YANBU, he isn't interested in you and he isn't interested in whether you're happy or not. I think you need to have a chat with him about whether it's time to call it quits, nobody deserves to be treated as though they don't matter.

I've ended up bursting into tears, I was so excited to see him and didn't expect it to be like this!
I've told him how I feel and he's called me weird and controlling, saying that his weekend shouldn't just stop for me. I get that if he'd made plans to go to the gym with his friend, but he could've told me before and he can play FIFA anytime.
He's calmed down now though and does seem a bit sorry, but not sure if I'm convinced really.

Honestly, I would just get up and go home. See how he responds to that - will tell you something!

Just go home

YOU'RE weird? You?! It's controlling to want to be treated like you exist? Jesus op, this relationship is OVER. Have more self-respect for yourself than to spend one more minute with him. Do yourself the biggest favour of your life and leave. Get a hotel room if you need to.

I'd go home too OP, don't devalue yourself by staying to be treated like that, you deserve to be with someone who makes an effort for you.

I'd just go home - he obviously doesn't want you there and his behaviour is really rude.

He sounds weird. He could have a lovely night of fun and laughter with his GF who he hasn’t seen for weeks but he chooses gym and PlayStation. What a loser. And he says you’re weird and controlling for not wanting to sit and watch him play stupid games?!

Seriously, ditch him. No fuss. Just pack your bag and say I’m going home. Enjoy your game. Don’t bother calling me.

I've told him how I feel and he's called me weird and controlling, saying that his weekend shouldn't just stop for me.

And there you have it.
Manchild sees you as a mere accessory to "his" weekend.
So dim & selfish it hasn't occurred to him that is is also YOUR weekend.
You are clearly there simply for him to turn to when he has finished playing with his other toys.
As to bringing home his own breakfast without even considering you ... that is simply shameful. He's like a charmless teenager. What on earth is in it for you?
Get rid of the git & focus on doing nice things for yourself - & DON'T accept this treatment from anyone else in future.

There are two possibilities here. Either he's deliberately behaving like a selfish arse because he's trying to goad you into breaking up with him OR he really is such a selfish arse that he genuinely doesn't give you a second thought.

Whichever it is, you deserve better. I'd pack my stuff and get out of there.

You need to walk away before he damages your self worth.
My dh misses me when I have been to work all day never mind not seen me for days!!
And he shows me!

Agree with Ministerforcheekyfuckery, just leave with your self worth intact and treat yourself to the things you want to do for the rest of the weekend.

Go home.
You are one of his accesories for the weekend, like the TV. He'll pay some attention to you when he's ready for sex. Until then, sit, be quiet and let him get on with his own weekend. He's the weird one, not you.

I think you should leave, if for no other reason than to drive the point home that it's an unacceptable way to be treated. I wouldn't get into a big row about it, I'd just leave and say 'you have made me feel invisible so I'm going home as this seems pointless'. It seems like he's trying to gosd you into dumping him anyway.

And also....sorry Op. What a childish, selfish, inconsiderate fool he is.

You deserve better than that OP. Fair enough that everyone deserves time to do the things they enjoy....but after 2 weeks apart, I’d be expecting quality time together. I certainly wouldn’t sit watching him play FIFA...what a muppet 🙄 as for him not bringing you any breakfast back, that’s just rude, selfish and thoughtless. Bin him off ASAP x