AIBU to feel so unnerved about the school run

[candlefloozy]

I just can't believe how awkward I've felt doing this. Even took my childless sister the one day and she said she was really uncomfortable! Doesn't help that I'm being left out of things by mums who I'd made friends with. But aside from that, having to stand there everyday and be friendly is such a pressure!!

Yeah I'm just going to focus on picking up my child and leaving it as that. The mom who started the group I'm not overly keen on anyway. It's the fact the others didn't ask me when I'd have asked them if you see what I mean?

It's best not to get involved in my experience. People will only use you for what they can get. Then when you put boundaries in hell breaks loose.

I don’t get involved. My eldest is leaving next year so I’ve been a school run mum for a while (got 2 others there too) and I’ve never much bothered tbh. My sons sister (from dad) goes to the school so I’ll chat to him and to step mum if I see them and sometimes I walk down with a good friend of mine who’s son is also there but aside from that I never really go anywhere with the intention of making friends, if it happens it happens. Im deffo not part of the ‘crew’ at all!

He’s leaving this year 😱

I don't talk to any of the school mums, the few times I have tried in the past I've realised I have nothing in common with any of them. I have other friends I would rather spend time with. The others have a WA group, and I would rather not be on it. If it is so important to you to be on a WA group, just start one of your own, you could always claim to not know about the other group if anyone mentions it.

Just smile, say hello, and nothing else and see how that works.

You could try a 'how are you?' Or a comment about the weather.

Perhaps work up to a 'have you had a good day?'

I've done ten years of school runs and have really enjoyed it. I like the interaction but I swear 90percent of all the chat is from those three phrases.

I'm not bothered at all about the cliques and being in whatsapp groups and nights out. I've made a few friends but many pleasant aquaintances and it makes life happier for me and I think the dc.

Try not to overthink it and remember its for the long haul so it's not always good to get in the tight cliques as they almost always combust!