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should I ask for a contribution?

13 replies

myidentitymycrisis · 03/05/2019 21:04

Bit of a long story, I'm doing a Toughmudder 5k tomorrow.

A colleague from my old work place originally convinced me to sign up to join her for the urban one last Autumn. She booked tickets and I sent her the money. When the date came up I couldn't make it. They don't offer a refund but no problem, apparently we can transfer our tickets to another date - which she did for tomorrow. Another colleague has also joined us.

Yesterday she forwarded me the eticket and details of the course. It turns out this time we are not on the 'Softies" urban course but a proper mud event in the country about 1.5 hours drive or 2.5 hours by public transport. none of us have cars. So I was originally planning to go by public transport, then thought I would ask my adult ds if he wanted to cheer me on, he agreed and he has a car so we were sorted.

I had to then buy him a spectator ticket £10. I talked briefly with my co-runners today and found the were planning to use public transport (2 trains and a bus minimum) so I felt I should offer them to come with me. I asked my son and he agreed.

So now to the current problem, I have had real problems with the website and cant find out how to buy parking in advance. If we pay on the day it will cost £30! it is incredibly complicated and my friends original account won't work, she just forwarded me a ticket this morning and through that I was able to buy a spectator ticket. It all feels like a lot of hassle and I cant help feeling if I had been given this info earlier on I could have figured it out better in advance.

Now I am going to be down £30 for parking and I will also give him something for petrol and I have bought his ticket which of course I would anyway.

WIBU to ask for us to split the parking three ways? I'm not tight but I'm not rich either, otherwise it will cost me near 50 quid on top of what I already paid and I didn't have any input into this situation until yesterday.

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TheInvestigator · 03/05/2019 21:06

Send them a message explaining that you've just found out that parking is £30 and since they won't be paying for transport would they long chucking something in the pot to help you cover it.

Expressedways · 03/05/2019 21:07

Is your DS driving all 3 of you? If so it’s perfectly reasonable to ask that parking be split 3 ways.

Good luck for the race!

Bouncebacker · 03/05/2019 21:09

I would think their public transport would cost more than £10 each so not unreasonable to ask them I would think - especially as you will be paying for petrol.

M4J4 · 03/05/2019 21:10

Of course, split parking and costs by 3.

M4J4 · 03/05/2019 21:10

*and petrol costs

Orchidflower1 · 03/05/2019 21:14

Yep parking and petrol costs. Hopefully they will offer before you have to ask though.

M4J4 · 03/05/2019 22:21

Don’t wait for them to offer. Just be matter of fact.

SavingSpaces2019 · 03/05/2019 22:24

tell them about the petrol and parking contribution beforehand though - not on the day.

Everydaypeople · 03/05/2019 22:29

I would say your ds has asked for a contribution to cover fuel and. Can they chip in.

myidentitymycrisis · 04/05/2019 07:29

Thanks everyone. Yes they offered to split. That has reduced my anxiety a bit.

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Everydaypeople · 04/05/2019 07:57

That’s good. Have a great day

Qweenbee · 04/05/2019 08:03

Off topic, £30 for parking is extortionate!

Glad they have agreed to split. It's only fair.

redcarbluecar · 04/05/2019 08:10

Of course you can ask them to contribute to parking and petrol- why should the travel cost you an extra £40ish and them nothing at all? Just tell them clearly what you want them to pay - if they object, they can get public transport as originally planned.

I echo the PP who winced at the £30 parking charge! Good lord.

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