Just looking for a bit of advice about whether I'm BU and what other people would do...
I've been friends with C since we were 11, over 20 years. We've always been close, going on holiday together and meeting up regularly for catch-ups. She has however always been a bit rubbish at making the first move/contact to get in touch and arrange to meet up. I've felt for a long time that it's always me that has to contact her to make arrangements to meet up or chase her to finalise details. We have a nice time when we see each other but it rankles me that she doesn't seem bothered to make any effort.
I had a baby last year and she did come meet my DD and has been very kind at Christmas with presents for her. I've seen C less than a handful of times since then however and it has only been because I've got in touch and asked to see her.
C and her DH are trying for a baby but having some difficulties so are undergoing tests. I went through the same tests before I managed to have my DD because we suffered from infertility. When I've met up with her since having my DD, most of the time it's felt a little awkward, almost like we're struggling for conversation in a way it never has in all the years I've known C.
If I do text her, the conversation is usually friendly but not very involved. I don't mention my DD much as I've been wondering if C might find it difficult when she's trying for a baby of her own. We had a few years of infertility and I remember only too well the feelings you experience when you want a baby so badly but it's not happening.
I'm not sure if I should just leave it as it is and maybe she'll get back in touch in the future or whether I should contact her and see about going for a coffee.