To ask you for a name for this type of person?

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Ok I have a mum friend who has this annoying superiority thing going on. If I go on holiday to somewhere where she's been then she tells me where I "have" to go and gets huffy when I don't. She's constantly telling me she "can't believe" I haven't watched a film she likes or if I don't like a song she likes. She is always saying "what is wrong with you?!" because I don't go to a restaurant or fast food place she goes to.

It's starting to get really annoying! She never shows any interest in the things I like, she just wants me to copy her and I'm not interested in doing that! She keeps lending me dvds and books to "educate" me so I have to waste precious hours sitting through crappy fantasy type movies or reading dreadful books about goblins and wizards just to shut her up.

I think I need a word for this type of person - could we invent one on Mumsnet?! It's not to be unkind I just need to a bit of humour to help me deal with it!

An irritating bitch?

Just tell her no. Why would you spend hours watching goblins when you don't want to?

She makes you read books your not interested in.....how can you do that?

I'd call her a nightmare.

She even "tests" me - quotes stuff from the films she's lent me to see if I recognise it!! She seems to memorise films when she watches them!

An overbearing bore ???

That’s plain, old fashioned controlling.

I have a friend who doesn't do this but does the whole I can't believe you don't like / do what I do thing. I honestly think after many years of knowing her it's because she's not super bright. It's like she can't fathom experiences and preferences different from her own.

This woman sounds like a smug no it all like she thinks she's better than everyone. Start saying no more. Also drop hints that it's rude to dominate people in this way. Or start doing it back.

Know not no

Egotistical

I'd call her an ex friend.

Why on earth are you letting her push you around like that.

I read a lot but there is no way on earth I would be wading through crappy books or sitting through films about goblins and such like just to please someone else.

'Not thanks' is the answer to give when she foists these things on you.

Stop wasting your precious time reading the shitey novels and crappy films. To shut her up? That is mental OP! Next time she gives you one, say 'Uhh no thanks! Not keen on the genre ta'. I wouldn't waste my precious time on such a dickhead.

There was a woman at my son's school who used to proudly make disparaging personal comments about her own kids, like calling them thick or rubbish at sports in front of her children!! (they were none of those things, just sweet kids, despite their horrible mother).

If I saw her in the playground I'd make a beeline for someone else so that I didn't have to constantly stick up for her kids!

Next time she's tells you you just HAVE to watch or do something just say to her, "Oh gosh no. That's not my thing at all." with either a horrified look on your face or a hysterical laugh.

It is mental I agree. I do shock myself sometimes the extremes I do to to be polite!! That said the Harry Potter box set is hiding the dust on my tv cabinet rather nicely

'oh,come on you know that's not my thing, tbh i'd rather live in the real world, and no i don't need educating either' then i'd drop the patronising cow, she isn't a friend.

Tell her Harry fucking Potter is poorly written and for children, and you 'can't believe' she still loves it , tinkly laugh, head tilt.

That's a control freak unfortunately - just learn to say you're not into what she's into and we are not all sheep - if she doesn't like it, knickers to her - you don't have to do what someone tries to manipulate you into

Plain old narrow-mindedness: can’t understand how anyone can have views/opinions that differ from their own.

This is actually ridiculous. Of course you don't have to watch stuff you don't like to please a so-called friend. Just stop. She is ridiculous for imposing her opinions and tastes on you, you are ridiculous for not saying 'no' and just ignoring her suggestions. Testing you is ludicrous. I would bin this friendship as it isn't actually a friendship!

She sounds very geeky and maybe lacking in social skills and the ability to see someone else’s point of view. She sounds like a couple of asd spectrum people I know. Remember sometimes girls mask very well. Is she generally a nice person though? Presumably there is a reason you are friends.

Cunt nugget.

“You think I need educating...
I think you need manners.

I call that quits. Let’s leave it there shall we, you watch what you wanna watch and leave me to “educate” myself..”

I’d call her my ex friend.

My mum is like this. Everything she watches is great, everything I watch that she doesn't is rubbish. Every song she likes is great, every song I like is rubbish. Films, food, restaurants, furniture, cars, even charities, supermarkets and insurance providers🙄.........the ones she likes are great and my choices are wrong. Luckily I don't see her anymore as it's very difficult to deal with. There are many words to describe people like this but I try not to swear too much. 😬

I'd call her 'whogivesashitpissoff'.
I'd really tell her where to go before you get the nickname 'doormat'.

Its hard being a fan of wizards and goblins, very few people to talk to about it!! I'm not sure what you could call her but she sounds like someone I'd have a lot in common with!!!