Baby name opinions

[babynamegrump]

I should probably caveat what is about to come with the fact that I have amazing family and friends who I love very much..

HOWEVER

We are having our first baby in 6 months time and have recently been telling very close family and a couple of friends. Family are very excited especially as this is the first baby in the family in a couple of decades which means there is a lot of baby talk already.

The latest seems to be what names we like.. I've made the mistake of being honest when asked (I never bring it up), and I'm finding it really crushing when noses are turned up and we get the "I had an uncle called that"/"I know a dog called that" or the even more obvious "eughhhh no I really don't like that".

Quite frankly I'm not asking their opinion, I'm answering a question when asked. Am I being a hormonal grump? Can I just say I don't want to talk about names or does that take away everyone's fun?!

Most people I know don’t discuss names until the baby is here

Please trust me when I tell you to stop discussing names with anyone except your husband. Their opinions simply don't matter. They will find out the name when the baby is born.

Just tell them you haven't decided yet.

I don't understand why people are so rude. That's a lovely, nice, goes well with your surname are what you should say. This only changes if you really love it or if you notice they are planning to call their baby after a serial killer or porn star.

I made the same mistake, then really had to bite my lip when a name choice was sneered at by a woman whose child is called Dwayne. I stopped answering after that and just acted like I was really unsure

I stopped discussing baby names with family after our first.
DC2 was just “here is the baby and this is his name”.
Will be the same with DC3.
Family members seem to think they have some weird right to have input on a baby’s name No. you had your chance to name your babies now kindly get off mine!!!

Stop discussing names with people. Tell them you don't want to tell until baby is born. Nobody will comment on the name if they are already called it.

We told my DPs our chosen baby name because they know better than to give an opinion (DGM wouldn't call my brother by his name for 6 months because she didn't like it). We toyed with telling MIL but she shot down our red herring names so we have decided not to.
Since then DH has accidentally blurted it out to about 10 other people, but the only people we have purposefully told are BIL & SIL.
Generally if people ask, I just say I'm not telling them.

Thanks guys.. maybe I never really thought about it before being pregnant but I just find it SO rude to ask someone something like that, then slag off their answer

Red herring names are a good idea.. I'm really annoyed with myself for giving away my favourites now (they hated ALL the boys names ).. hopefully they will forget by November

Thing is I hated my cousins daughters name when she first told me what it was. And then Baby was born etc and now 6 years later I really like the name.

Names grow on people, but keep your names to yourself because it’s a special time for you and your husband and silly people will ruin it for you.

Oh I never told her I didn’t like that name tho as like you say it’s bloody rude.

We chose our boy and girl name quite quickly and kept it a secret. I indulged in discussion because I enjoyed it but I never mentioned our chosen names just other ones I liked. People had no idea of our plans.

Don’t tell them that you’re not telling them, just say you haven’t found one you both love yet, but when you do you’ll let them know 😊

Rinse & repeat until the baby is born.

Zippy, have you called your children Zippy, Bungle and George? Because, if so . . . nobody's business but your own. It's irritating but everyone will always know better. We used to say our first would be called Linguine, if asked.

In some ways its good to bounce ideas for names, other wise you'd have lots of Iris Too, Teresa Green, Holly Wood, Jennifer Taylors around or inappropriate initials. It does happen.

Lesson one... Dont tell ANYONE the name until it's been registered :)

I would just start to be very vague OP, that's what I did and just gave a few random names that we quite liked but weren't in the top three. Also it doesn't matter if they hate the names - it's your baby! For the record my mum HATED my nieces name when she was born - now she's used to it and says she can't imagine her being called anything else!

Wouldn't you rather find out what people think of a name BEFORE putting it on a birth certificate? Surely turning up their nose before child is born, is better than either doing that once child is born and name revealed, or, smiling and saying 'nice name' whilst secretly thinking otherwise.

I’m 28wks and we’ve told nobody our chosen name as we don’t want the comments! If we wait until Baby is here then I’m sure they won’t comment on the name.

We tell people we’ve chosen if they ask but say we aren’t telling anyone what it is!