Hi everyone so I'm at my whits end with the father of my child I'm not sure if I'm being unreasonable like he says I am so I wanted some advice from you mums out there.
I have a 7month old baby and a 4year old from a previous relationship. I moved from a different country to be with this man and since I moved home it has been non stop arguing and him telling me I'm crazy and unreasonable for wanting simple
things from him like doing family stuff or even living with us.he does not help out with his son he works long 12 hour shifts some at night so I know he must be tired but he gets 3 days of every week and he always sleeps in on every day he is off till 1 or 12 and I've never once since our child is born been offered to have a sleep in. His daya off are usually spent with his friends or eating out alone or gym time or doing stuff to his car he usually comes over to me late evening when the kids are in bed and relaxes with me and I do enjoy it but then when I say I'm going to bed he will go back to his own apartment most nights he doesnt like to stay at my house as he says he doesnt want the baby to disturb his sleeping at night . I argue with him alot because I think it is unfair that I'm always left to mind our son in my eyes I'm basically like a single mother. He disappears for hours sometimes and says hes with friends and I later find out he isnt. At least once a week after working a day shift he wont bother to visit me because
he says he needs alone time to chill after a hard days work. When he works nights I dont see him for anymore then a half an hour a day.he tells me I'm crazy and I'm asking to much. He usually spends two to 3 hours with us on his days off and if I bring up how little time he spends with me he ignores me for days. Recently he mentioned he was buying a apartment for himself to live in next year so even in the next year he still has no plans to live with us and make it a proper family. I think its strange for our son growing up with his dad living in another house even though we are meant to be together. Thanks for any advice any of you can give.😊