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stresstest88 · 01/05/2019 08:24

In my job I work closely with another department. One guy in particular is very difficult. We are a similar age and at the same level but do different things - both these job functions have to work in tandem.

A few examples of how he’s making my job impossible:
⁃ every piece of work I do is heavily criticised with no constructive feedback - eg I’m just told it’s ‘poor’ or ‘not good enough’
⁃ He has outright lied about senior management asking priorities to be changed so that I put his work first
⁃ He frequently goes above me to my line managers to ask for a second opinion if the information I have given him isn’t what he expected to be correct (I am a specialist in my area and he is not)
⁃ He sends me shitty emails if I go home on time or take a lunch rather than staying late (which tbf I do unless I have other commitments)

I have complained many time with specific examples to senior management but they say that the issue is with me not being able to form a relationship. I don’t agree with this as I’m not the first person to have a problem with this guy and also I get on very well with other departments that I work with. I feel that they simply don’t know how to deal with him as we struggle to recruit and overall the business is a mess.

So what can I do? Going to work every day to be told that I can’t do my job is very wearing and causing my considerable stress.

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ScrewyMcScrewup · 01/05/2019 08:26

Do you have a HR department? If so, gather evidence and escalate this to a formal complaint.

senua · 01/05/2019 08:39

Going to work every day to be told that I can’t do my job is very wearing and causing my considerable stress.
You are giving too much credence to his view. Detach and don't let his words harm you. Indulge his pseudo-problems as you would a toddler's. Explain in words of one syllable. Practise laughing at his twuntishness and invoke much eye-rolling.
Illegitimi non carborundum.

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