I have been friends with someone for over thirty years - since we were at school. I’ve always thought she was great- our families have holidayed together, nights out etc I’ve also supported her through her divorce and when her Mum died. Unfortunately my father is terminally ill and , as an only child (parents are divorced) , I’m trying my best to help him through it but I am struggling. I am conscious that with all the emotion I may not be being rational so I’d be grateful for your thoughts.
My friend has also been experiencing relationship issues- her boyfriend broke up with her (he dated someone else over Christmas), they got back together and now are engaged. It’s all a bit of a whirlwind but she’s very happy so I’m happy for her. However she has been a bit rubbish with me. When she split up with her bf she was on the phone 5/6 times a day and in the early hours- last month I didn’t hear from her once. Not even a text to ask how my father is. She has been in touch this week to agree a time to speak (we live miles away from each other) but each time something else had cropped up so she couldn’t call (she fell out with her daughter, son needed picking up, went out for a meal with her bf) etc ). She has done this before (in January) and I told her how it made me feel / that I was hurt that during such a difficult time she couldn’t even just send a text to ask how things were. I feel like my energy should be focused on my father at this time and that I should just forget about her . Am I being unreasonable? Im pretty certain if I cut off from her now there won’t be any way back for our friendship but I am pretty hurt.