So bit of background, we are a family of 3, me, dh and 1dc. I do all of the cooking for the family, every night. I cook from scratch and we rarely have processed foods.
I'm vegetarian and have been my entire life, I also have 2 different allergies to consider.
DC is little and needs loads of carbs, easy eat food. He is also mostly vegetarian as I'm not confident cooking meat. DH is a meat eater. So there are a few dietary requirements to take into account already.
About 3 years ago during a really stressful time dh had IBS symptoms, although the diagnosis was never confirmed. It all settled down again but he moans about his digestive system constantly, if he has wind, acid reflux, or whatever he goes on for hours and hours.
The problem is he seems to change what he can/can't eat on a daily basis but expects me to just know.
In fact it's worse than that, we do the weekly shop together, he won't suggest any meals, he will see what I put in the basket and won't say anything. Every night I'll say that I'm cooking such and such if that's OK, he says yes. But when I put the food in front of him he rolls his eyes and complains about whatever he can't have or, failing that, the portion size being too big (but then complains he's not eating enough for his weight). He pushes his food round the plate and I end up scraping his half eaten meal into the bin. If I dare to get angry because I checked with him he basically says he wasn't listening to me and I should know what he can't eat.
So, first, aibu to get annoyed about this? (not the digestive problems but his refusal to help me help him so to speak). Second, aibu to tell him to buy and cook his own food? My DM told me I was BU and as he was in work all day and I was 'only' at home with the toddler it was my job to do all the household tasks and cooking for the poor dear so I think I need some impartial advice!