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Itchy sleepover

9 replies

IbbleDibble · 30/04/2019 22:15

Hi - My DD 14, had a weekend sleep over - first time with a nice but newish school friend. Came home covered in flea bites to ankles .. legs .. about 50 bites! Told me one dog / two cats .. at sleepover house all scratching and sleepover parent commented how .. ‘oh yes they do need to be treated’ .. I washed all her clothing on her return. But ! .. She has been invited back !!! She’s embarrassed (teenager) to show / tell her friend the extent of her bites .. What politely can she say ? I know the parent only to say a friendly hello / goodbye on drop off / pick up ... advice appreciated. Aibu to send daughter in a protective anti- flea suit??? ... itching as I post

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user1474894224 · 30/04/2019 22:19

Do not send her - you will have to decontaminate all the clothes, bags, bedding etc before bringing it into your home - or you risk bringing the fleas home.....

Once, many years ago...I visited a friend whose home was infested....i could see them jumping all over my legs. Her mum had been away for the week and it had got bad while she was away. The mum did appreciate being told there was an issue. - It was a horrid environment to be in. My friend was actually doing my hair - so I couldn't move. My BF went into the garden to look at something. Do not send your daughter back there. Invent an excuse!!

StuckInsideAnEcho · 30/04/2019 22:21

Don't send her back.
We had this when we stayed with a friend of mine for a few nights and they had a flea problem.
It only takes one flea to come home and lay eggs and you be infested.
They don't need an animal in the house to survive either.

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IbbleDibble · 30/04/2019 22:33

Really appreciate your replies - we have a dog here at home to so I really really don’t want a flea infestation! .. previously we have had the friend here to stay - (Luckily no fleas joined that party ) but for my DD stay there it was like she was the midnight feast ! I feel sorry for the pets .. and My DD feels awkward about upsetting her friend who is lovely and can’t help the environment she lives in. But advice heeded

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azulmariposa · 30/04/2019 22:43

Can she develop an "allergy" to cats? That way she can use that as an excuse not to go.

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IbbleDibble · 30/04/2019 23:05

Tbh she said the cats were put outside all night, so if she said she had an allergy, I imagine the cats would just get put out all day and all night ... I’ll show her this thread in the morning. I will think of an excuse for this time .. but It’s a tricky one

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azulmariposa · 30/04/2019 23:36

The cat hair is what the allergy is too, so the house has lots of cat hair in... Wink

AndWhatNext · 30/04/2019 23:39

invite the friend over to your house instead and say dd isn't keen on sleepovers (obvs make sure your dd is ok with it)

AndWhatNext · 30/04/2019 23:40

^ your DD saying she's not keen on sleepovers

Bestfootforward1 · 30/04/2019 23:41

Say shes going then ring up at last minute and say shes not well. You can't send her there again.

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