Star of The Week

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MiddleofMadness · 30/04/2019 21:48

My son got star of the week. The 1st thought that went through my head was 'oh god'. Backstory....he got it 4 times (I didnt count, other parents did) last academic year. I was confronted about it...was told that my DS 'is a favourite, he gets it for the smallest of things' etc. Their DS's are academically better, deserve it more etc. Our sons are good friends but (obv) their DS's they told my DS what had been said. At 7 yrs old he said 'I cant get star of the week again, its not fair'. Honestly, is this such a big thing? But no one says anything when my DD has only got it twice in 3 years. And its not a 'thing'.

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goldenchicken · 30/04/2019 21:49

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YouTheCat · 30/04/2019 21:53

My dd got star of the week at least once a term in year 3 and 4. She was conscientious. She worked hard and if she finished her work she'd try to help someone else with theirs. She was kind to the other kids.

The difference was that the children voted for star of the week and that was why she got it so often.

Changedmynametoolikeyou · 30/04/2019 21:56

Let them complain to the teacher. Nothing for you or your son to concern yourselves with really. And if they say anything to you I’d tell them the same thing.

Trumpleton · 30/04/2019 22:02

In our school we record hiw often children get these ttpes of awards and all cnildren get them (for example) at least twice. A parent occasionally moans that X gets it all the time - but they are wrong! Thei kids probably told them wrong. V sad your son now feels bad about it!! School should juat make clear how the system works to prevent moans.

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MiddleofMadness · 30/04/2019 22:05

The headteacher has thought about getting rid of it due to all the unpleasant it causes (from the same group of parents).

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MatchSetPoint · 30/04/2019 22:10

people always have to moan about something just ignore them and get on with your day.

amy85 · 30/04/2019 22:24

It is unfair tho if one child gets it multiple times and another child doesn't get it...neither of my boys have had star of the week yet this academic year they are both aware of who in their classes have had it more than once and feel it's unfair and don't see why they should bother

Justajot · 30/04/2019 22:52

My DD is the type of child who would get star of the week more frequently than others if her teachers were not careful to share it out. They used to have star of the day too and she was always first star of the day in the academic year. They've now got rid of star of the week and star of the day and I completely agree with that.

My DD is well behaved at school, she's academically capable and mature for her age. For whatever reason, those qualities are in her and don't require any special effort from her, they all come easily. So why should she be more frequently rewarded than those children who struggle more? For the child who struggles to pay attention but has really managed to focus; the child who has found learning to read hard but has kept going; the child who isn't confident but speaks up - reward them, not the one who finds it easy.

Obviously you do have to find the challenges that push the child who finds things easy and do reward them for their effort too, but not disproportionately.

MitziTheTabbyIsMyOverlord · 30/04/2019 23:07

These things are usually aimed at motivating the less able and more disruptive to encourage trying hard and better behaviour.

And most schools who run these 'star of the week' things ensure every child gets it at least once in an academic year.

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