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to feel a bit funny about being 'cured'?

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Thisnamechanger · 30/04/2019 19:48

This is probably going to sound utterly, utterly insane, churlish, ungrateful and horrible.

Has anyone ever had a long standing health issue resolved and felt like they've lost a little bit of their identity?

I've had about half normal hearing since childhood and the second part of the correction process happens on Friday and just like that I'll have normal hearing. In fact, probably perfect hearing, better than most.

I feel a bit funny and I can't work out why! Is it maybe a little bit of my personality almost? AIBI(insane)?

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Yeahnahmum · 30/04/2019 19:54

Not U at all :) it must be so weird for you to have something corrected that has been part of you for so long! I think Friday will be the start of a new era for you! Bit scary at first (which is abs fine) and then gradually becoming the new normal (and the new you!) Good luck

ShaggyRug · 30/04/2019 19:55

I can totally understand how you’ll feel. Just because somethings good does not mean you can’t have both positive and negative feelings. This issue has been part of your background identity for so long that it may well take a while to feel as if nothing’s missing. Allow yourself to feel both sides of the emotions as they are both valid and good luck with the procedure and learning about the new you Flowers

chocolateaddiction · 30/04/2019 19:55

That is fascinating. I am deaf in my left ear, Have been since 5. I also have tinnitus. I f someone offered me hearing in my bad ear I would say no, it scares me that it will be too loud and disorientating. I would like to stop tinnitus though as it's new, but I have heard of some people who stop trying to cure tinnitus as it has become who they are.

RidgedPerfection · 30/04/2019 19:59

It doesn't sound strange at all. I have a friend who hears voices as part of a MH condition. She and her MH team manage her medication so that the voices are reduced to a reasonable level but still present as, when they have managed to stop them, she has struggled as they are something that she has always had.

WiddlinDiddlin · 30/04/2019 20:01

I had this very conversation with another wheelchair using friend a few weeks back.. would we want a cure, what sort of a cure would we want...

We've both lived with our conditions a long time and whilst we havent been wheelchair users that whole time, our conditiosn have affected us all our lives...

We both came to the conclusion that whilst it would be nice if certain things were easier, we actually have far more important desires, needs, wants.. than some miraculous complete cure.

Our disabilities are not ALL of who we are.. but they are a big part of it.

Of course we absolutely cannot speak for ALL disabled people, (or all of any group at all) im certain there are many who would do almost anything to regain the ability to walk, hear, see etc... but yeah, not me!

mistermagpie · 30/04/2019 20:07

Not to liken it to a disability obviously, but I pulled out of getting laser eye surgery for similar reasons. I'm very shortsighted and it's nothing but an inconvenience, but for some reason I didn't want to be cured.

happinessischocolate · 30/04/2019 20:08

What's the operation, I'd love to have full hearing again, if I found it too loud I'd just put ear plugs in Grin

specterlitt · 30/04/2019 20:09

Understandable, but it's time for your new chapter. You are now free of what once bound you, now it's time to enjoy life without having to think about it again. It's going to be something new, but I bet it will be incredible also, especially if the illness caused you certain limitations.

Embrace your new "cured" life, this is your time!

All the best.

LegallyBrunet · 30/04/2019 20:09

I felt a bit like this after I was declared seizure free. It’s been two years now and even though it’s nice not to worry about having seizures and learning to drive, it feels weird after fifteen years.

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Thisnamechanger · 30/04/2019 20:20

Aaaah I'm not mad then! Smile

it scares me that it will be too loud and disorientating

Maybe this is part of it...they did they left one three years ago and in the short term it's fucking awful. Also has coincided with the building next door being internally demolished. Even crisps we're too loud last time!!

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Thisnamechanger · 03/05/2019 07:17

Wish my luck this morning Sad

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JustDanceAddict · 03/05/2019 07:19

Good luck!!

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Thisnamechanger · 03/05/2019 18:23

Can now hear, mind officially blown!!

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DatsunCogs · 03/05/2019 18:25

How amazing! Is it what you expected, good or bad? I hope it's good Smile

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