Can't change address on mail redirection

[mamasons]

So frustrated. I left my ex because he was abusive and I had to pretty much run away and leave him a note with the help of women's aid.

I redirected my post to my friend's house, which cost nearly £80 as my ex was destroying and opening my mail. I didn't realise that I couldn't change the address on it and even though it's only been set up for 3 weeks, they won't let me change it.

I'm now on SMP and absolutely cant afford another £80 to redirect to my new permanent address. Really stressing out as my friend is now going to be lumbered with my post for a year for random things I haven't changed. I'll change as I go along but there will be things I will forget to change.

AIBU to be having a complete breakdown over this and other ridiculous trivial things in my life? Crying over mail redirection seems ridiculous

You can sort most of it at source

You’ll get there with it.

If you were my friend I would not care a jot that I would be getting your mail for a year.
I would just be pleased that you are not in that situation anymore.
Just collect it regularly.
Best wishes

Take a deep breath and remember how far you’ve come. Change what you can. Apologise to your friend and show her how grateful you are for her help, let her know you’ve changed everything you can and you’re sorry for anything she’s still receiving. She’s your friend, she’ll understand.

If I were your friend I would be happy to do this - if it's just random things that you haven't changed, then they'll only get occasional letters, and hopefully no repeats.

It sounds like this was your last straw, so, crying over it isn't ridiculous - it's perfectly understandable.

Print a sheet of address labels with Please forward to and your address. Or ask someone who works in an office to do it for you.

Give them to your friend and ask her to stick them on anything that's still arriving and chuck back in box.

As you receive each random brochure or whatever you can call and go online and either remove or update your details.

It all seems overwhelming but it's easy really. Don't worry.

If I was your friend, or even your casual acquaintance, I would have no problem at all receiving your post for you in these circumstances.

If you keep changing things as you're going along it won't be very much stuff at all anyway.

Having also left an abusive ex, he doesn't know my address and we still live in the same town, I would say talk with your friend about managing this. I'm sure they'll understand and want to help. There's some good ideas here. I did at least plan in advance and changed many addresses online, and you can change addresses on items as they come along.