Oh...please help. Contraceptive failure.

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DS is 18 months old. Have been tracking my periods since they came back in September - my cycle started at 40 days and has gradually reduced. The last 3 cycles have been 29 days in length.

My DS still breastfeeds, much more so if I'm off work, which I was for 3 weeks over Easter and he fed multiple times a day. He's always fed a couple of times a night also.

On Friday, (day 29 of my cycle) I had period type pains during the day but no bleeding and then had sex with my husband that night. The condom split but to be honest, I didn't think much of it as expected AF over the weekend.

It hasn't come and I've been getting slowly more stressed and feel just about at breaking point now. I feel really stupid to have been so chilled about it over the weekend when I could have got the morning after pill but just didn't worry because of where in my cycle I am.

I need advice. I've read that the copper coil can be used within 5 days of sex as emergency contraception. I don't want to take EllaOne as you need to take a 1 week bf break and not prepared to do that. Do I need to take the day off work tomorrow and find somewhere to fit the coil? Where will do this? The GP? Or a walk-in GUM?

What's the likelihood that the huge spike in breastfeeding over Easter has just messed my cycle up a bit?

Please can I just have a handhold and some sensible advice to help order my thoughts?

Once my periods returned (at 14 months and 9 months) they were very regular despite breastfeeding changes. My advice would be to get coil in morning. You are almost definitely fine, but do it anyway

Do you want another baby? I got pregnant with my second when first born was 15 months and I think it's a brilliant age difference.

If it has happened you'll have kids at 2,yrs 3 months apart. It's hard for the first year or so but is a great age gap.

Assuming of course that you wanted more and this is just a little bit sooner than expected

If your cycle is prone to change even in a gradual way its possible your fertile day is just not when you expect it to be. I wouldn't rely too much on an app like this unless you have a very predictable cycle.

I would take a test because your period is late and surely it would be dangerous to have the coil inserted if you are pregnant? Are your boobs sore?

They'd make you do a pregnancy test before fitting your coil so you need to do that first.

You need to test.

You could have conceived three weeks ago. Test and then decide what to do next. I would look into Mirena long term.

100% wont be positive on a test because we have only had sex once in the past 8 weeks and that was last Friday.

Would love more children but have just secured a huge promotion at a new place of work which is a one year contract covering maternity leave!! I'd be due smack bang in the middle of the year.

The only way to know for sure is to test. So if you're going to have to do that before having the coil then pick one up to save wasting your time.

It's entirely possible that the extra bf has messed your cycle up, or stress, random influences or it could be that you have conceived and are a lot further on. People do still bleed during pregnancy. It's why some people find out they're further along than they're expecting.

Just an update: absolutely 100% cannot be 'more' pregnant or 'further along' because I have not had unprotected sex and have not had an accident before last Friday.

Have been to the GP today, during lunch break, and had a copper coil fitted, which is 99.1% effective as emergency contraception if implanted within 5 days.

No pregnancy test taken by the GP either, which I thought was strange given all the comments saying they would.

absolutely 100% cannot be 'more' pregnant or 'further along' because I have not had unprotected sex and have not had an accident before last Friday.

Well isnt that a little naive?! Condoms dont need to split to fail and holes are not always immediately obvious, I should know as that's how I ended up with DS1! I am surprised that the GP didnt ask if you had done a test too.

Hope the cool does its job, you’ve done all you can do. 🤞🏻For you

Coil not cool!

@PyongyangKipperbang okay, there is the smallest and most insignificant chance that this could have happened but I have had sex maybe 5 times in the past 6 months, all with condoms and all of which looked 'intact' after the deed. It certainly didn't seem enough for an actual medical professional to consider testing for pregnancy so I can't say I'm too worried.

@JudgeRindersMinder thanks. I had some awful cramping this afternoon but that seems to have worn off so hopefully all is good.